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To think parents shouldnt apply for jobs on behalf of their kids....

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Hannah4banana Thu 12-Jan-17 17:32:47

I voluntarily started and run a Facebook page that helps people find local vacancies and employers also post there too. We hit over 40k members this month and I love reading the success stories , it's really worthwhile. The number of mum's mainly that apply on behalf of their kids is mental! Is it just me or should you be encouraging your teenagers to get out and find a wee job for themselves.
Earlier today a mum tagged her daughter in a job advert and the daughter replied with "send my cv" to her mum!
If I was actually recruiting for any of the jobs that would be an instant cv in the bin.
I worked from when I was 15 and always approached local businesses with my crap wee c.v and talked to the manager myself. Always shows initiative. One other guy asked in a pm if his mum could attend an interview for him ? Wtf!

Bambooboo Thu 12-Jan-17 17:35:55

I work in a business where we employ teenagers as casual Saturday/holiday cover and later as Apprentices. The ones who don't apply themselves don't stand a chance. I had to tell a mother to leave once when she brought her daughter to a trial work day.

Aeroflotgirl Thu 12-Jan-17 17:38:30

Omg, I hope you said no to mum coming to the interview! What's happened to traditional job searching, handing your CV to companies and trudging around shops looking for vacancies :-/

Hannah4banana Thu 12-Jan-17 17:38:33

It must be quite a new thing because there is no way my mum would have entertained any of that! It's the same people constantly complaining their son/daughter never gets a job, I wonder why

Hannah4banana Thu 12-Jan-17 17:39:39

Im sure it's because it's on Facebook. People use slang, swearing and txt speak to address the employers directly. Maybe it's a product of the new generations confused

lastqueenofscotland Thu 12-Jan-17 17:41:00

I had someone's mum call me up after someone didn't get a job saying we should reinterview her as she was clearly just nervous?!

bonfireheart Thu 12-Jan-17 17:42:42

I used to answer phones during clearing at university and the amount of parents ringing in to get their children on a course!

DurhamDurham Thu 12-Jan-17 17:45:13

When I was a retail manager parents regularly used to ask for application forms on behalf of their teens, even if the teens were stood there beside them confused

Violetcharlotte Thu 12-Jan-17 17:45:22

Helicopter parenting. I do worry about how our children's generation are ever going to become independent of parents won't stop doing everything for them. It's well meaning, bug not helpful in the long run.

Hannah4banana Thu 12-Jan-17 17:46:03

That's so odd to me! If you are 17 even 18 you should be able to type up a basic c.v and phone for yourself otherwise how will you do the job. Everyday day I digress at some of the stuff that's posted.

Aeroflotgirl Thu 12-Jan-17 17:47:47

I know, gone are the days of proper letter writing to accompany your CV. What parents in the work place next. I would not want to do that.

MadHattersWineParty Thu 12-Jan-17 17:48:56

My mum used to do this for he without me knowing about it. She'd just come home say 'oh I got you some Saturday work at that cafe up the road'. When i'd never even mentioned wanting to work there and already had a job confused then she'd go nuts and say I had to do it or I'd be letting them down!

In fact whenever I got a job off my own back she'd be most put out. Maybe some of the mum's are like her God help the pour kids

TheWeeBabySeamus1 Thu 12-Jan-17 17:50:58

My mum got me my paper round when I was 13. She was tired of me always asking for money so when she saw the ad she went in and said "Seamus will do it" and then came home and told me that I was starting the next day 😮

Older than school age and it's not really the done thing is it?

Aeroflotgirl Thu 12-Jan-17 17:50:58

I worry for DD 9 as she has ASD and learning difficulties and developmental delays. I don't know, she goes to an Asd special school and has an EHCP which will support her with further education and employment.

TDmoocher Thu 12-Jan-17 17:52:05

Hasn't this always happened though? Facebook just puts it on a public format. Nepotism is well established in certain industries, for example, Geoffrey chats to David at the golf club then two weeks later Geoffrey's daughter has work experience/trainee solicitor in a law firm.

Hannah4banana Thu 12-Jan-17 17:54:44

Aeroflotgirl I wouldn't worry there are so many organisations out there that will support her into employment. We have at least 4 in my area and its small. I always post links on my page and they are very successful. It's great to see what's out there in terms of additional support and guidance. I've learned so much running that page! It encouraged me to apply for the citizens advice do I volunteer there too now. Not enough hours in the day.

Hannah4banana Thu 12-Jan-17 17:56:15

I think this is different, no one knows each other so it's not really nepotism. People just apply as normal but it's their parent instead of themselves on their behalf.

ICanTuckMyBoobsInMyPockets Thu 12-Jan-17 17:58:34

Every day on our local Facebook page:

"N E one no of any jobs for my 19 year old son?"

Only once have I seen someone comment with a "tell them to get their own job" type thing and people pounced like wolves.
I'd never employ someone whose parent rang up for them.

My 26 year old brother still gets my mum to ring in sick for him hmm

Hannah4banana Thu 12-Jan-17 18:00:32

Omg his boss must love that! Must be so much more common than I thought.

Aeroflotgirl Thu 12-Jan-17 18:03:36

Thanks Hannah she is still young yet, but you do worry. I might have to help her complete applications or accompany her to interviews (not in). She is getting the right help to being independent from the school, they have their own work experience opportunities and college.

ILikeThatSong123 Thu 12-Jan-17 18:07:17

Well, my dear dad practically found me a job and installed me there safely. He's passed away few years ago but, he was always

SauvignonBlanche Thu 12-Jan-17 18:09:58

I'm a bit torn on this one, I know it's a really bad idea and sets a really bad impression but I know DS is going to need help from me in order to get any gainful employment.

He's in his second year at University and really needs a part time job but has no luck so far and had no work last summer as I wasn't in a position to help him.

He has ASD and finds some things tricky, he'd be a great, hard-working, very reliable employee but struggles in some social situations.

I can see myself job-searching and filling in electronic applications for him, I'd take him to an interview but would stay well out of sight!

I've got access to his hotmail account and regularly email people on his behalf. Independence is something that we're working towards.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners Thu 12-Jan-17 18:14:33

I'm feeling quite proud now of my son, who has a little job but wants another one with more regular hours so printed off 50 CVs last weekend and went round the city centre and local retail park with his friend handing their CVs in.

I did get him his current job but that was because it was where I also work part time so they have known him all his life and we'e just waiting for him to be old enough to employ (lots of family units work there). He went to the interview on his own though, even though it was just a formality.

ThisIsStartingToBoreMe Thu 12-Jan-17 18:18:06

I wouldn't even entertain the idea of employing someone who came with their mum. what are they thinking????

Hannah4banana Thu 12-Jan-17 18:18:25

I do think there's absolutely nothing wrong with supporting and helping with applications or c.vs. I don't know the background of some of the posts I've seen but I dont get the impression this is the case. To tell your mum to send your c.v is ridiculous and completely lazy. Really doesn't make a good impression at all!

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