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AIBU?

To be annoyed that they unfollowed me?!

36 replies

Journea · 10/01/2017 21:57

I'm really hoping for some good advice as in the grand scheme of things, this is not a big drama but for the last few weeks it has totally seemed one to me! I've been using Instagram and a lot of DH's family use it. A while ago SIL accused me via DH that I didn't 'like' all of her photos and also that we always spend time with my family and not them. Totally not true. So, to keep her happy I started 'liking' more of their photos but to be fair, if something doesn't grab me or tickle me, then I don't 'like' it. What is the etiquette? Maybe I've missed the rules! Anyhow over Xmas the whole of SIL's family have 'unfollowed' me. My DH says that they're pathetic and whether it's my hormones due to early pregnancy or what but I've been in tears so much about it. Now SIL and family are coming over this weekend and I'm really not looking forward to it. I feel that she's trying to drive a wedge between me and DH as she's been texting him a lot and I kind of feel resentful too that DH hasn't done anything to find out why. He says he just wants an easy life. I want to know why she's got all the family to unfollow me as I know to her 'it's a big deal'. AIBU to be so devo'd by this? Would you bring it up and find out why or just forget about it?

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DearMrDilkington · 10/01/2017 21:59

DearMrDilkington · 10/01/2017 21:59

Don't cry over it, move on.

moongirl123 · 10/01/2017 22:09

Bloody hell, your SIL is pathetic. Just laugh about it, and don't make it a big deal for you. I cannot stand attention seekers who are addicted to likes.

littlepeas · 10/01/2017 22:12

Don't get sucked into social media drama - just shrug it off and move on. She's playing a silly little game, very childish.

TondelayaDellaVentamiglia · 10/01/2017 22:13

oh block her .... don't just unfollow....that's plain amateurish.

block her everywhere.

TondelayaDellaVentamiglia · 10/01/2017 22:13

she started it. 3)

Backt0Black · 10/01/2017 22:15

Jaysus. What is she, fifteen?

MrsDustyBusty · 10/01/2017 22:16

This is a time when one is pleased to be old.

HermioneJeanGranger · 10/01/2017 22:20

Is your SIL twelve?

Ohyesiam · 10/01/2017 22:23

Never underestimate the power of hormones to make a small thing seem big.
This is totally her problem, she sounds beneath you. She want s you to be upset and buy into the drama. Don't give her the satisfaction. Be bright and breezy when you see her, and Judy key it all flow o get your head. You have a baby to grow, much more important, put your focus there.
Best of luck with it ask, and congratulation s on your pregnancy.

januarybooze · 10/01/2017 22:23

It's very pathetic. To be honest I am guilty too, I unfollowed my MIL because she unfollowed my mum... I'm embarrassed for myself but my mum!!

Chloe84 · 10/01/2017 22:27

YANBU, OP. It sounds like she is trying gang up against you.

Are they staying for the weekend? She sounds petty.

honeyroar · 10/01/2017 22:29

Amuse yourself. Make yourself a placard with a large "like"on it and "happy now?" Underneath it, and hold it up whenever she says something. Not really - better to just imagine yourself doing it, it will make you smile thinking about it.

EmmaC78 · 10/01/2017 22:33

I would just ignore that this has happened and forget about it. There are much more important things in life than social media.

EweAreHere · 10/01/2017 22:33

Wait. You're pregnant, and your DH's family has just unfollowed you en masse over the holidays in some kind of petty vendetta? And you are carrying a child that will be related to them?!?

Tell your DH that he doesn't get to say he just wants an easy life and put his head down when HIS family is creating drama and treating you like crap. He puts them in their place, or he tells them he won't be seeing much of them and they won't be seeing the new baby if this continues.

BlondeBumshell · 10/01/2017 22:36

Can you imagine her telling the rest of the family to unfollow you because you didn't like her posts?! Picture how she came across there and you'll have the last laugh.

Megatherium · 10/01/2017 22:38

Trust me, it's your hormones. If anyone has unfollowed you purely because SiLhad a strop over whether you were "liking" her posts enough, they're as childish as she is - and I bet they'll be back as soon as they want to know about your baby. It's definitely not worth crying about.

MammaTJ · 10/01/2017 22:39

It is not real life! Get over it!

I have not got insta, but my DD wants it (too young). My eldest DD has it and I am fairly sure she is not bothered how many people follow or unfollow her.

I have FB and have even learned that that is not real life.

Talk to them, let them see the children, ignore the fact that they are no longer looking at your imaginary life. It doesn't matter

OR Do what Honeyroar said!

mumofthemonsters808 · 10/01/2017 22:50

I know it's easier said than done, but I'd try to not get too hung up on anything related to social media. Overthinking can be dangerous and you can tie yourself in knots trying to fathom out people's motives and reasoning, for example I'm a slim, fit women, yet my best friend daily posts about real men preferring women with meat on them.My nephew who I'm close to, never likes any of my pictures, not even one, yet people I've not seen for twenty years always like things.In my case, they may be chewing on their bit, about something I've unintentionally done or said, but I'm not falling for it. I just leave them to it and I'd do the same with your in laws, head high, just chat as normal, don't give them the satisfaction of knowing they bothered you, they won't hold their hands up and apologise, so you really are wasting your energy and I suspect rocking the boat is possibly what they want.

heebiejeebie · 10/01/2017 22:53

Honey roar

HashiAsLarry · 10/01/2017 22:55

Social media is fun and a great way to engage with people who are fun and are great to engage with. Be thankful you don't have to deal with them. Post what you like on your accounts. Spend time with people who value you.

PurpleMinionMummy · 10/01/2017 23:01

Pretend you haven't noticed. It will annoy them more, and it's not worth the drama anyway.

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MarmiteDoesYouGood · 10/01/2017 23:11

I can't believe this is actually a serious thread. It has to be a windup, surely? Nobody really cares this much about this crap do they?

RainbowJack · 10/01/2017 23:22

Is your SIL twelve?

OP doesn't sound much older.

devo'd, really?

Benedikte2 · 10/01/2017 23:29

Your SIL is barmy. What grown up has time for such petty stuff? Just feel relieved you don't have to look at all her boring stuff and decide whether to like it or not.
Tell your DH you expect him to be loyal to you during the family's visit -- he needs to tell them to knock it off if they start to make snide remarks.
If the subject comes up tell them you no longer have time for social media atm and are concentrating on preparations for baby etc.
Good luck

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