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To be annoyed that they unfollowed me?!

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Journea Tue 10-Jan-17 21:57:43

I'm really hoping for some good advice as in the grand scheme of things, this is not a big drama but for the last few weeks it has totally seemed one to me! I've been using Instagram and a lot of DH's family use it. A while ago SIL accused me via DH that I didn't 'like' all of her photos and also that we always spend time with my family and not them. Totally not true. So, to keep her happy I started 'liking' more of their photos but to be fair, if something doesn't grab me or tickle me, then I don't 'like' it. What is the etiquette? Maybe I've missed the rules! Anyhow over Xmas the whole of SIL's family have 'unfollowed' me. My DH says that they're pathetic and whether it's my hormones due to early pregnancy or what but I've been in tears so much about it. Now SIL and family are coming over this weekend and I'm really not looking forward to it. I feel that she's trying to drive a wedge between me and DH as she's been texting him a lot and I kind of feel resentful too that DH hasn't done anything to find out why. He says he just wants an easy life. I want to know why she's got all the family to unfollow me as I know to her 'it's a big deal'. AIBU to be so devo'd by this? Would you bring it up and find out why or just forget about it?

DearMrDilkington Tue 10-Jan-17 21:59:16


DearMrDilkington Tue 10-Jan-17 21:59:41

Don't cry over it, move on.

moongirl123 Tue 10-Jan-17 22:09:16

Bloody hell, your SIL is pathetic. Just laugh about it, and don't make it a big deal for you. I cannot stand attention seekers who are addicted to likes.

littlepeas Tue 10-Jan-17 22:12:59

Don't get sucked into social media drama - just shrug it off and move on. She's playing a silly little game, very childish.

TondelayaDellaVentamiglia Tue 10-Jan-17 22:13:00

oh block her .... don't just unfollow....that's plain amateurish.

block her everywhere.

TondelayaDellaVentamiglia Tue 10-Jan-17 22:13:13

she started it. 3)

Backt0Black Tue 10-Jan-17 22:15:22

Jaysus. What is she, fifteen?

MrsDustyBusty Tue 10-Jan-17 22:16:41

This is a time when one is pleased to be old.

HermioneJeanGranger Tue 10-Jan-17 22:20:52

Is your SIL twelve? hmm

Ohyesiam Tue 10-Jan-17 22:23:10

Never underestimate the power of hormones to make a small thing seem big.
This is totally her problem, she sounds beneath you. She want s you to be upset and buy into the drama. Don't give her the satisfaction. Be bright and breezy when you see her, and Judy key it all flow o get your head. You have a baby to grow, much more important, put your focus there.
Best of luck with it ask, and congratulation s on your pregnancy.

januarybooze Tue 10-Jan-17 22:23:48

It's very pathetic. To be honest I am guilty too, I unfollowed my MIL because she unfollowed my mum... I'm embarrassed for myself but my mum!!

Chloe84 Tue 10-Jan-17 22:27:40

YANBU, OP. It sounds like she is trying gang up against you.

Are they staying for the weekend? She sounds petty.

honeyroar Tue 10-Jan-17 22:29:16

Amuse yourself. Make yourself a placard with a large "like"on it and "happy now?" Underneath it, and hold it up whenever she says something. Not really - better to just imagine yourself doing it, it will make you smile thinking about it.

EmmaC78 Tue 10-Jan-17 22:33:30

I would just ignore that this has happened and forget about it. There are much more important things in life than social media.

EweAreHere Tue 10-Jan-17 22:33:30

Wait. You're pregnant, and your DH's family has just unfollowed you en masse over the holidays in some kind of petty vendetta? And you are carrying a child that will be related to them?!?

Tell your DH that he doesn't get to say he just wants an easy life and put his head down when HIS family is creating drama and treating you like crap. He puts them in their place, or he tells them he won't be seeing much of them and they won't be seeing the new baby if this continues.

BlondeBumshell Tue 10-Jan-17 22:36:02

Can you imagine her telling the rest of the family to unfollow you because you didn't like her posts?! Picture how she came across there and you'll have the last laugh.

Megatherium Tue 10-Jan-17 22:38:03

Trust me, it's your hormones. If anyone has unfollowed you purely because SiLhad a strop over whether you were "liking" her posts enough, they're as childish as she is - and I bet they'll be back as soon as they want to know about your baby. It's definitely not worth crying about.

MammaTJ Tue 10-Jan-17 22:39:21

It is not real life! Get over it!

I have not got insta, but my DD wants it (too young). My eldest DD has it and I am fairly sure she is not bothered how many people follow or unfollow her.

I have FB and have even learned that that is not real life.

Talk to them, let them see the children, ignore the fact that they are no longer looking at your imaginary life. It doesn't matter

OR Do what Honeyroar said! wink

mumofthemonsters808 Tue 10-Jan-17 22:50:44

I know it's easier said than done, but I'd try to not get too hung up on anything related to social media. Overthinking can be dangerous and you can tie yourself in knots trying to fathom out people's motives and reasoning, for example I'm a slim, fit women, yet my best friend daily posts about real men preferring women with meat on them.My nephew who I'm close to, never likes any of my pictures, not even one, yet people I've not seen for twenty years always like things.In my case, they may be chewing on their bit, about something I've unintentionally done or said, but I'm not falling for it. I just leave them to it and I'd do the same with your in laws, head high, just chat as normal, don't give them the satisfaction of knowing they bothered you, they won't hold their hands up and apologise, so you really are wasting your energy and I suspect rocking the boat is possibly what they want.

heebiejeebie Tue 10-Jan-17 22:53:08

Honey roar grin

HashiAsLarry Tue 10-Jan-17 22:55:03

Social media is fun and a great way to engage with people who are fun and are great to engage with. Be thankful you don't have to deal with them. Post what you like on your accounts. Spend time with people who value you.

PurpleMinionMummy Tue 10-Jan-17 23:01:04

Pretend you haven't noticed. It will annoy them more, and it's not worth the drama anyway.

MarmiteDoesYouGood Tue 10-Jan-17 23:11:50

I can't believe this is actually a serious thread. It has to be a windup, surely? Nobody really cares this much about this crap do they?

RainbowJack Tue 10-Jan-17 23:22:40

Is your SIL twelve?

OP doesn't sound much older.

devo'd, really?

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