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To ask how your dc was after the mmr?

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Skatingonthinice16 · 10/01/2017 19:59

I am pro-vax but something about the mmr worries me. I know statistically you are more likely to get ill from one of the diseases it protects against but that's not much comfort if you take your perfectly healthy child in for a vaccination and they end up being very unwell or permanently injured.

It's not helped by that fact that an acquaintance is so certain it caused brain damage and subsequently autism in her child. I know they say there's no link but I honestly doubt they'd ever admit there was as the result could be catastrophic in terms of no one having their child vaccinated. She says that it was an instant transformation from a happy sociable child who had some words to one who screamed, cried all the time, lost all the words and understanding they had etc. I understand that often people correlate the two events because autism can start to show at around the same age the mmr is given but often parents state there were signs even before the vaccine is given.

Anyway consulting dr google is no help. I only get horror stories. I'm hoping for a more balanced response on here! I will get dd vaccinated but I'm very worried about it. She's due it now and I need to book her in. She's just turned 12 months.

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Soubriquet · 10/01/2017 20:00

Both of mine have had it

My oldest just had her booster a few months ago

They are both completely fine. No change to their normal behaviour

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AmeliaJack · 10/01/2017 20:03

My twins were fine. One had a raised temperature afterwards (fixed with Calpol) the other had nothing at all.

I know scare stories on the internet are awful but balance it out with some reading on the effects of eg Measles.

We need to keep up herd immunity. It's really important for all those kids who can't get immunised.

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Isadora2007 · 10/01/2017 20:05

Mine had hers a little late for several reasons including my fear and autism in the family (autistic relative didn't have mmr at all).
She had high high temp and was grumbly but okay. She developed a rash around a week later and subsequently has sensitive skin round her eyes... not sure if this is related but she hadn't ever had that before.
Ds is 4 now and hasn't but had his yet due to febrile convulsions. He will probably get it this summer before he starts school. I feel his body is now better at managing temperatures so it is only now worth the risk imo.

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Musicaltheatremum · 10/01/2017 20:05

My daughter had a high temperature on the day she had it 23 years ago. Son was fine. Both were fine on subsequent boosters.
My colleagues and I had the MMR a few years ago when there was a mumps epidemic and we were all fine.

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Skatingonthinice16 · 10/01/2017 20:06

Yes I know measles can be dreadful too.

It's the act of taking my healthy child in for a vaccination when I don't fee 100% happy about it I'm struggling with.
I toyed with single measles until she was about 3 and then giving the mmr when she was a bit older. Probably makes no difference and she will she the mmr I just wondered about waiting a little while. We have a history of autoimmune conditions in the family too (me, he grandad, her aunt) so I always feels slightly wary of any medication.

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everythingis · 10/01/2017 20:08

Both my kids had it - no effect whatsoever they are 4 and 7

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bobbinpop · 10/01/2017 20:09

My DC were both fine and we have autoimmune diseases in the family too. I have no concerns. Try to find some better scientific papers/data online instead of anecdotal stuff; may put your mind at rest.

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PetalMettle · 10/01/2017 20:09

My son had a raised temperature but was otherwise fine (and he had the men b the same day which is why I think he had the raised temperature).
Children can have bad reactions to vaccines but it is so incredibly rare.

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StarlingMurderation · 10/01/2017 20:10

DS was completely normal, no reaction at all. I do understand your worries - I'm pro vax but I was still scared something 'bad' might happen. But there's absolutely no evidence to support the vaccination-autism link proposed by Wakefield - his research has been completely discredited.

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Lapinlapin · 10/01/2017 20:10

Absolutely fine. No temperature, no side effects, nothing.

Try not to read the horror stories. Or if you must, at least read the effects of the diseases it protects against for balance.

I do understand your concerns though. I like to think I'm normally totally rational, but when it concerns your own child, the horror stories do make you pause to think (or they did for me at least.) But at the same time I knew I would vaccinate - it's just so important, as you already know.

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HardofCleaning · 10/01/2017 20:12

My DS was absolutely fine. I can assure you that there is no way they would hide a link to autism or be able to if they wanted to. I totally understand the anxiety once the thought has been planted into your mind but there is absolutely zero risk of autism as a result of the MMR.

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PuraVida · 10/01/2017 20:12

Neither of mine were effected whatsoever above slight outrage for the split second it took

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NapQueen · 10/01/2017 20:12

How quickly do these reports say the change in ability/personality became evident after the jab? Within 24 to 48 hours and I'd panic too.

A few weeks or months later and surely it cannot be linked!

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Pettywoman · 10/01/2017 20:12

Both fine, once the surprise of the jab was over, chocolate buttons given, job done.

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Zoflorabore · 10/01/2017 20:13

Both of mine have had it, no changes or signs it affected them.
Ds is 13, he has asd, I do not think it's a result of the job or my 5 yr old dd wouldn't have had it.
I remember the doctor telling a friend of mine that measles/mumps can kill where autism doesn't kill and I know which I'd rather choose.

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Zoflorabore · 10/01/2017 20:14

Sorry jab not job

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Skatingonthinice16 · 10/01/2017 20:14

The mum I know says that her child developed a very high temperature that day and screamed a high pitch scream on and off and over the following few days regressed back and was like a different child.

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Peachesandcream15 · 10/01/2017 20:16

DD was poorly for around 3 days, fever, sick, 'off it'. Then absolutely fine.

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GreenTureen · 10/01/2017 20:31

I hate vaccinations and the couple of days that follow. I watch the dc like a hawk, i'm nervous about any cough, stutter, looking a bit tired. I saw daily autism signs in them both for a week after the MMR Hmm even though I know the link was rubbish.

But I recognise that that's my anxiety and pull my big girl pants up and do it anyway because I know that the far greater risk is not vaccinating them.

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JenniferYellowHat1980 · 10/01/2017 20:34

Mine were both completely fine.

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kel12345 · 10/01/2017 20:34

My lo was fine. No rash, no temperature. He didn't even need calpol.
Also the mmr does not cause autism. The doctor was proved wrong and struck off.
Far safer to vaccinate than risk the alternative IMO

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bumbleymummy · 10/01/2017 20:39

If you're really worried about it you could pay to have singles. The mumps vaccine is no longer available as a single and iirc the single rubella vaccine is being discontinued but there is an MR available privately.

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Spotsandstars · 10/01/2017 20:40

We decided not to have it (have had all other injections). We have a child in family with asd and I've meet families that tell similar stories to what u have heard. My personal view is that there is a slim link and that it's cheaper for the government to immunise with a triple injection and risk the few children who are more at risk to asd than give every child single vaccines. However, I think the majority of people will not experience any negative effect and that's why it's not really talked about we just didn't want to risk it at such a young age. There are places you can pay for single vaccines (they are unregulated I believe?).

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Spikeyball · 10/01/2017 20:41

Mine had no reaction. He had asd before he was vaccinated.

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Andro · 10/01/2017 20:44

Mine ended up in ICU - 1 in a million reaction.

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