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2beesornot2beesthatisthehoney Tue 10-Jan-17 18:47:19

Watching ITN news right now. Tragic awful story about the death of a young girl. Teenager helping with enquiries I think. Anyhow the point at which I thought FFS was when a picture was shown of the young girl whose death was described as "all the more tragic" because she was "heartbreakingly pretty". It would be sad whatever , not because of how she looks. It's a terrible story but what a comment by the reporter?
AIBU?

SuburbanRhonda Tue 10-Jan-17 18:48:10

Did they actually say it was "all the more tragic"?

shock

jollygoose Tue 10-Jan-17 18:48:55

i thought th same - it appears it doesn't matter murdering a little girl who happens to be plain.

BertrandRussell Tue 10-Jan-17 18:49:00

I didn't see it but I am outraged at the thought. I suspect others might disagree, though.

Bingowingslikeashieldofsteel Tue 10-Jan-17 18:49:25

I just heard that same report - I thought he sounded like he'd got a bit lost with what he was going to say and had blurted it out. Though I was only half listening so not whether it was a pre-recorded segment or the reporter was talking over the photo being shown if you see what I mean?

Heartbreaking story nonetheless...

2beesornot2beesthatisthehoney Tue 10-Jan-17 18:50:05

Yes "all the more tragic" was the actual phrase.

OhTheRoses Tue 10-Jan-17 18:52:42

I think we should focus on the tragic death of a child and not post negative things in relation to her at all when the tragedy and grief is so fresh.

RIP. With love to her family.

MissVictoria Tue 10-Jan-17 18:53:17

As if pics in magazines etc weren't bad enough making out looks mean you're superior, now it's more tragic for a pretty person to be killed than an average or "ugly" one?!

SuburbanRhonda Tue 10-Jan-17 18:57:27

ohtheroses

The negativity is about the reporting, not the victim.

OhTheRoses Tue 10-Jan-17 18:59:33

I know but it relates to a characteristic of the victim. I know this is AIBU but in my opinion it's distasteful. How would posters feel to read this if it were about their murdered child?

LoupGarou Tue 10-Jan-17 19:00:08

That's a horrendous comment from the reporter! shock

MrsDustyBusty Tue 10-Jan-17 19:02:12

I remember there was a satirical children's t-shirt a few years ago mocking the fact that unhappy, unpopular and unattractive children never seem to be killed. The t-shirt saying "I'm not happy or popular - don't kill me" was suggested as a child protection measure.

flapjackfairy Tue 10-Jan-17 19:03:39

I agree it is shocking that good looks are seen to make you a more valuable person!
Poor little love and her poor family.

Trainspotting1984 Tue 10-Jan-17 19:04:04

That's really had by I think I'd give him a break rather than being outraged- as another poster said he sounded a bit lost and I can't imagine it was scripted. Even newsreaders make mistakes

TheTantrumCometh Tue 10-Jan-17 19:04:48

But nobody here has said anything negative about the child. The only person who has was the reporter who deduced that the value of her life was directly linked to her appearance- not what an amazing young girl she must have been to those close to her.

Ohyesiam Tue 10-Jan-17 19:06:33

Really vile and objectifying. Poor kid, poor family.

RIP

RainbowJack Tue 10-Jan-17 19:07:13

I've heard this before and it always annoys me.

Even quite recently, I watched a documentary about a murder and they said 'such a pretty girl'.

Like if she wasn't, it wouldn't be still as tragic?

SuburbanRhonda Tue 10-Jan-17 19:07:33

ohtheroses

It's not a characteristic, it's a subjective and inappropriate comment by a reporter.

And it's possible to object to that as well as being shocked by the alleged crime.

TheTantrumCometh Tue 10-Jan-17 19:08:21

I think it's everything that goes behind him blurting that out because he was lost for words that has got to me. If we didn't live in a society where this kind of language is not only commonplace, but accepted and not questioned as anything other than normal, then it wouldn't be one of the first things to pop into his head. We all have moments where we are lost for word and we all have moments where we stick our feet in it (I'm more guilty of that than most) but there's a line.

pinkandpurplesparkle Tue 10-Jan-17 19:12:03

It was an inappropriate thing to say - but as PP said, I thought he was emotional about telling the story, and as a hardened journo, that had surprised him so he was lost for words and this came out. I suspect that as he was saying it, he was instantly wishing he could say something else, but it was already out there.

HappyFlappy Tue 10-Jan-17 19:12:08

This is a big bee in my bonnet.

A child is a child - whether they are conventionally pretty or not is immaterial. I didn't hear the reporter say this, but if s/he did, then I find it shocking in the extreme.

Goingtobeawesome Tue 10-Jan-17 19:13:32

I think he was just feeling emotional and if it was my child I'd be annoyed at posters criticising him and not with him.

LunaLoveg00d Tue 10-Jan-17 19:14:02

It's ITN, the downmarket end of news reporting. Marginally better than Sky, but that's not saying much.

jojo2916 Tue 10-Jan-17 19:18:50

Being pretty is simply a nice characteristic like having a great singing voice, or being great at football, or being clever, so what why on earth is it offensive to others when someone is described as pretty it's true it doesn't reflect on if you are a nice person or not but nor do the afore mentioned characteristics, being offended by the fact someone has been called pretty says to me you have massive issues and it's something I hear people being offended over a lot yet it's ok to say someone is an amazing mathematician for example neither traits make you good or kind yet pretty seems to get people's goats. However I completely agree that to say all the more tragic is inappropriate if that's how it was worded. Bless that little one and her family

SantasLittleMonkeyButler Tue 10-Jan-17 19:20:22

Crikey, my first thought on reading the OP was "that sounds like Kay Burley".

I see it wasn't.

YANBU, horrible thing to say - or to think. The death of any 7 year old child is heartbreaking full stop.

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