TOFFEE NOSED COW WHO SHOULDN'T FORGET WHERE SHE CAME FROM!!!!
Following on from my thread pre Christmas which a lot of you were lovely enough to comment on and return to seek updates.. (posted from DH's account hence diff name)
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2802763-To-stop-sending-money-to-ungrateful-brats?pg=12
So - very possibly massively identifying but really past giving a toss now.
Update is ...was having 30 week scan yesterday and in the waiting room was subjected to a barrage of messages on my being this snotty nosed cow who needs to remember where she came from....AND..... DH 'needn't worry as I will soon send him back to where he came from' (he is mixed race... uncertain if DB was celever enough to make that joke??) WOW. I was reprimanded by DH for laughing too loudly at 'd' bros tantrum
So apparently this particular 'd'Bro is finished with me after 'all he has done for me' let me run you through the list.
- manipulated me into giving him cash on several occasions claiming it was 'for nappies' 'for school trips' .... it was for drugs
- took 7k from me to settle a drug debt from some really nasty types
- brought these types to my door looking for him when I lived alone (oh yes, I have lovely memories of 'where I came from')
- on release from jail lived in my house, in the master bedroom! with ensuite, walk in wardrobe and balcony like Lord of the bloody manor RENT FREE
- ate food I bought FOR FREE
- wore the clothes I bought him FOR FREE
- brought his GF round 'to clean' (I never asked??) while I was out. More like shag her all over the house..... found her underwear everywhere.. behind MY headboard, down the side of sofa etc! (surely just do it in your room or at her house?)
-said girlfriend started leaving toiletries in main bathroom like Lady of the Manor(DB's ensuite not good enough?) oh and fag ends in the loo where she'd clearly been smoking in the bath (lovely)
-brought drug-friends (sorry for this term to anyone actually seriously trying to tackle a substance issue) to where we live. this was the ONLY condition of his being allowed to stay. That he use the time to sort himself out and not bring that life to my door!
- either he / drug friends stole or aided in the theft of my company car!!!!! claims no involvement, amazing coincidence, given no through road, one way in / out, around half a mile of a public road in a tiny community of 5 properties. Hardly opportunist.
- let the dogs out for a wee while doing all of the above. AH - I SEE IT NOW, I'M IN THE WRONG AND SHOULD REALLY TAKE A LOOK AT MYSELF.
So - my question MN'ers..... can I now just go completely NC? Clearly DB had major life issues and needs help, but I feel like I've come to the end of the line, and really have little left to give. ... and I wonder while I'm around will he never sort himself, always thinking he can fall back on me?
He has also very recently block deleted all facebook activity for the last 12 months (didnt know that was a thing!) so clearly theres something in the offing and he doesnt want police to see.
Well - that was a readathon, but I hate a dangler / dripper!