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AIBU to want to be called mummy?

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GlassIsRefillable Tue 10-Jan-17 18:10:49

I have a 5 year old step son and a 2 year old daughter. My step son of course calls me by my first name but now my daughter is starting to talk she has begun calling me by my first name too.

AIBU to be upset by this? I have wanted to be a mummy for many years and being called 'mummy' means the world to me, but perhaps I am being silly?

At the moment she calls me both, any suggestions on how can I encourage her to keep calling me mummy even though her brother doesn't? Or do I just leave it?

SpiritedLondon Tue 10-Jan-17 18:16:39

Well I assume that other people such as your DP call you by your name aswell so it seems logical that DD will copy this. If she's only 2 you've got plenty of time to reinforce what you want her to say. If it was me I would take every opportunity to use the term Mummy until she's grasped it.... e.g. " give it to mummy" rather than " give it to me". I think over time it will resolve itself this way.

purpleme12 Tue 10-Jan-17 18:20:22

No you're not being unreasonable I wouldn't like that either. For ages I used to call OH daddy in front of my little girl and he used to call me mummy. It has worked she's three now and she calls us mummy and daddy but has grasped that we have our own names.

LittleBoat Tue 10-Jan-17 18:22:54

As Spirited said, but can you also ask your step son to help with this by referring to you as dd's mummy when he talks to her. He should be old enough to understand that you're 'jane' to him, but 'mummy' to dd.

abbsisspartacus Tue 10-Jan-17 18:25:38

Yes he is old enough to say give that to mummy mummy wants you rtf take it a game

TooSmittle Tue 10-Jan-17 18:34:26

I don't think you're BU, it's a really special word and I understand why it's important to you.

Try the correcting by repeating thing - DD says "Jane, can I have a drink please" and you reply "yes, mummy will get you a drink". Keep at it, don't let any instance of being called by your first name go and always repeat it back corrected. It'll sink in eventually, don't worry. And yes to getting the whole family involved too.

rollonthesummer Tue 10-Jan-17 18:35:38

Keep calling yourself mummy and repeat what she says but replace your name with mummy. Get DH to do it too. That would upset me too!

Reality16 Tue 10-Jan-17 18:36:42

It's nothing to do with your stepson whatsoever. It's really common for kids to go through a phase of using their parents real names. Don't sweat it

Notso Tue 10-Jan-17 18:38:13

I had the opposite to this as I looked after DN a lot with my own DC and she would call me Mama like my two younger ones did. Her Mum hated it and I think she thought I did it on purpose.
I just made sure I referred to myself as my name to her and encouraged my DC to call me my name when talking to her. Just as you teach manners if she said "Mama can I have a drink" I 'd say back to her "Notso can I have a drink please"

Potnoodlewilld0 Tue 10-Jan-17 18:38:22

Don't treat it like a big issue - it isn't.
My three year old calls me by my first name when she is bring a little monkey.

Just keep on saying 'pass mummy the book' 'come and sit by mummy' 'come to mummy' ect..

Potnoodlewilld0 Tue 10-Jan-17 18:38:47

And I agree - it's not your SS fault

Spaghettihead1 Tue 10-Jan-17 18:48:17

Ds used to call me by my name when he first learned it around the same age.
I just used to laugh it off and say "I'm called mummy to you"
He'd do it jokingly too and I'd tell him I would only answer him when he called me mummy.
I think it's just something they copy from others. It will pass.

picklemepopcorn Tue 10-Jan-17 18:50:19

I had this as a foster mum. I got DH to refer to me as Mum, and referred to myself as mum. Sometimes I said "oy, Mum, actually!'

GlassIsRefillable Tue 10-Jan-17 19:25:38

Thanks mummies. I will just keep reinforcing and encouraging the family to do the same.

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