Am I being unsympathetic? I've met no less than 3 women recently with spotless houses and OCD dh. One was discussing the relentless daily housework she does (daily hovering, 2 under 5) more organised than I was at work to manage it. Another limits play dates due to it, spotless house but boys never have friends round. It does affect socially, due to the lack of returned invites and limit to winter play. Even the garden is Astro turf perfection.
If this was my dh I'd expect him to either get professional help to manage it or do any housework above the necessary himself and not fuss about it. I find it incredibly selfish how these men are impacting their families, they do a little noisy fussy hovering or rearranging after work in a bit of a drama but make no real substantive contribution to keeping the house clean.
I can only see it as controlling behaviour, though the women seem understanding of their dh MH needs. Am I heartless? DH was depressed for a bit, I love him and made clear I always did and tried to help... but I also packed him off to the GP and had a chat about family impact and why we needed to move forward for all of us to the best of abilities. I always ask he tries, not wallows without seeking to move forward. I expect the same if myself, if the impact is on others. I got PND and he was great, but not asking for help wasn't an option, he helped me talk to people...
Aibu? Heartless?
Or are they controlling gits? They lol seem to manage at work and socially just fine without issue at all, just have their wives wiring on needs
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FiloPony · 10/01/2017 11:49
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