Hi, haven't bothered to name change though am embarrassed by the situation.
Was torn between here and Relationships but I know I will get told straight here.
So a bit of background-known dp for around 18 years, were in the same social circles etc, there was an attraction but nothing happened.
I then met the father of my ds and didn't see much of dp for years though often thought about him.
Me and ds dad broke up, me and dp got together properly a few years along the line.
He was very sexually inexperienced but I never made it an issue.
Couple of years in, he moved in and we eventually had our dd.
Ds is almost 14 and dd is almost 6.
Relationship has been rocky, feels like there are two separate families under one roof, he finds fault with ds a lot. Ds has autism.
To cut to the chase, without bringing up the millions of reasons the relationship is utterly crap, he is completely uninterested in sex.
He has never had a high sex drive, I accepted that.
For the last 6-9 months on the rare occasion it has happened, he has been very strange and has not been able to ejaculate.
Again, soft arse here is very understanding.
For various reasons it has all kicked off tonight and he told me that the reason he doesn't want to have sex with me is because I make him sick as I help ds with washing his hair and with his school shirt and tie and as he is fully developed ( he is like a man ) it's putting him off me
I have never heard of anything so pathetic, ds is high functioning and pretty independent, he has an active social life and tons of friends but needs help with a few things.
Dp will not take any responsibility for the situation and blames my ds for everything, I'm so angry. I feel neglected and to be honest I want him gone. House is mine and I told him that nobody will come before my children.
Aibu to think this is a smokescreen?
I have little niggles that he's maybe gay, call it gut instinct. I don't know.
Sorry for such a long post, I need to get this out, my family are going through hell at the moment with a terrible situation so I don't want to burden them.
Thanks for reading, zoflo :)
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To think dp's excuse is ridiculous
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Zoflorabore · 09/01/2017 23:24
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