Advanced search

Am I being unreasonably shallow?

(81 Posts)
user1483809827 Mon 09-Jan-17 12:45:31

I met a guy on tinder. We had our first date last Friday night and our second date yesterday.

I like him. His personality is great. There is sexual attraction there (although I haven't had sex in so long it's no surprise). He has a great body. He has a daughter and we're both on the same wavelength in that our dd's will always come first.

But.. I don't like his teeth. They're clean, it's not a case of poor oral hygiene but they're a bit crooked and it sort of ruins his smile.

Am I being really shallow? Apart from that he ticks a lot of boxes.

monkeywithacowface Mon 09-Jan-17 12:46:57


TondelayaDellaVentamiglia Mon 09-Jan-17 12:47:18

surprising to me that a paragon of perfection such as yourself has had to resort to OLD really . 3)

Soubriquet Mon 09-Jan-17 12:47:34

Very shallow

My teeth aren't perfect. Luckily my dh saw past the teeth and we are happily married with two children

OohhItsNotHoxton Mon 09-Jan-17 12:49:10

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

BIgBagofJelly Mon 09-Jan-17 12:49:14

It depends on you I guess if you still find him attractive and he's great in other respects then it seems a little silly to reject him (you're unlikely to find someone who ticks every single box and has no physical flaws). If for some reason straight teeth is very important to you and it stops you finding him attractive then I guess you should break up with him.

treaclesoda Mon 09-Jan-17 12:51:41

I suppose it all depends on whether you'd be happy to be rejected for something utterly trivial. Somehow I get the feeling that you wouldn't, because most of us wouldn't.

gamerchick Mon 09-Jan-17 12:51:44

Yeah you're shallow but not to worry I'm sure he's somewhere picking apart your flaws somewhere.

oldenoughtoknow Mon 09-Jan-17 12:51:55


treaclesoda Mon 09-Jan-17 12:53:34

But on the plus side, if he's a lovely guy, he'd hopefully be able to find someone who isn't judging his teeth, so probably fairer all round to call it quits and let him move on. Just don't tell him the real reason because no one needs to be criticised like that.

Arkhamasylum Mon 09-Jan-17 12:55:34

If you were really attracted to him, you wouldn't care about his crooked teeth. Maybe after you've met him a few more times, he'll become more of himself and less of his appearance. It's not fair to harbour a secret revulsion for him, though, when he could be with someone less judgemental about his appearance. We can't all be perfect, after all. It's Tinder, not Crufts smile

TheCatsMother99 Mon 09-Jan-17 12:56:44

Yes, you are being shallow, but you know that, don't you.

user1483809827 Mon 09-Jan-17 12:57:43

I'm not perfect I'm far from it. And I don't expect him to be perfect either.

I think I'm scared and trying to look for faults.

He probably doesn't like the wort on your nose grin

MrsExpo Mon 09-Jan-17 12:58:25

Yes you are, to answer your question.

Of course you are perfect yourself, so the poor guy has a lot to live up to.

mistermagpie Mon 09-Jan-17 12:58:37

Supermodel yourself are you? I understand that physical attaction is important, of course it is, but imagine somebody judging you for such a small thing and how you would feel.

My DH has got a massive nose, like comedy big. I still think he's gorgeous though and if I had ditched him because of that (or if he had ditched me for my, wait for it, wonky teeth) then I would have missed out on an amazing marriage and child. Give the guy a chance.

ChicRock Mon 09-Jan-17 12:58:53

Well yes that is shallow but after only 2 dates I suppose that's probably fair enough.

Just tell him there's no spark for you and move on.

user1483809827 Mon 09-Jan-17 12:59:37

Jesus I didn't expect all the harsh comments.

TrustySnail Mon 09-Jan-17 13:01:27

Are you perhaps focusing on his teeth because you have other, less tangible, doubts about him?

I doubt you'd allow this to get in the way if you wholeheartedly liked him in every other respect.

CaraAspen Mon 09-Jan-17 13:01:56

Do you have a recent photo of your own teeth? Please don't say they are false teeth - aka veneers!

user1483809827 Mon 09-Jan-17 13:02:47

No I don't have a Hollywood smile.

user1483809827 Mon 09-Jan-17 13:03:20

I like him but we've only been on 2 dates. It's hard to tell yet.

SaltySalt Mon 09-Jan-17 13:04:08

Poor fella! Let him down gently please 😞

ShutTheFridgeUp Mon 09-Jan-17 13:05:31

I like slightly crooked teeth, I think it adds character.

SpookyPotato Mon 09-Jan-17 13:05:33

If I'm genuinely attracted to someone, then I can look past things like that.. Someone I have been so attracted to had very uneven teeth and I didn't care because I just fancied him, full stop. If you're finding faults and they're bothering you then you're probably not that into him.

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, watch threads, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now »

Already registered? Log in with: