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Unacceptable behaviour of other parents AIBU

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Happylotti Mon 09-Jan-17 09:22:36

I dont usually post on here but i need to get this off my chest!!!!!

My children go to a rather small private school and today i witnessed something that has made me so angry! And i dont care if i get outed with this one!!!!!!!

There are a few drive ways around school which most people avoid......every now and again people dont. I came out to my car and this lady was outside taking pictures of the car parked across her driveway.....she asked both my friend and i if we knew whos car it was. I know the lady by face but never really spoken to her, my friend drove off and as the parent from school came out i said to the lady, 'i think this is her i'll leave you to it' and went to turn my car around. What i witnessed was awful, the lady (who was elderly) tried to talk to her and she got in her car, drove off and almost hit another car.

Aibu to think this is awful behaviour? I told the lady whos driveway it was to contact the head and if she wants i will tell them what i have witnessed and if she wants me to, to grab me one morning!!!!

Have you ever had anything similar?

Letseatgrandma Mon 09-Jan-17 09:24:59

My children go to a rather small private school

Im not really sure what that has got to do with anything?!

Yes, her behaviour was rude. Some people at state schools are rude, too.

Imchangingmyname Mon 09-Jan-17 09:26:32

Yes, entitled rude cow. You did the right thing.

BIgBagofJelly Mon 09-Jan-17 09:28:01

YANBU. I would personally inform the head teacher regardless of whether the woman chooses to. What a horrible lady (the driver obviously not the elderly lady whose driveway was blocked)

RhodaBull Mon 09-Jan-17 09:28:39

I live next door to a small private school (is it the same one?!) and occasionally people park across my drive. If I catch them I normally just go out and glare. Occasionally I've told someone off. A while ago a man did just as your woman did above; he just got in his car, looked straight ahead and roared off. There will be arses like this everywhere. All the school can do is plead with parents to be considerate and not park over drives.

BertrandRussell Mon 09-Jan-17 09:30:13

Yep. You just don't expect that sort of behaviour from private school parents, do you? grin

Imchangingmyname Mon 09-Jan-17 09:30:49

Im not really sure what that has got to do with anything?!

Why do people pick up on stuff like this? So MN.
OP is simply giving a bit of background to set the story up.

HalfaFishFingerAndTwoPeas Mon 09-Jan-17 09:34:02

Changing because it's obviously a stealth boastgrin You wouldn't start off a post with ' my children go to a school that is painted red' it's completely irrelevant to the story.

Letseatgrandma Mon 09-Jan-17 09:35:14

OP is simply giving a bit of background to set the story up.

Yeah right.

BertrandRussell Mon 09-Jan-17 09:37:39

I don'5 think it's a stealth boast. I think it's suggesting that this is the sort of behaviour she would expect fro state school parents, but private school parents should know better.

A commonly held belief. Along with the belief that that here is no bullying in private schools, and state schools are entirely populated by knuckle dragging chair throwers.

user1478860582 Mon 09-Jan-17 09:41:12

Why shouldn't she boast? I wish my kids went to private school. I think some of you are guilty of inverted snobbery.

Anyway, back to the point. I think I would report it as friendly neighbour/school relationships is handy for all.

DireTires Mon 09-Jan-17 09:44:19

I think it's the opposite- most people think that private school mums are an entitled group of people.

Man10 Mon 09-Jan-17 09:45:34

Im not really sure what that has got to do with anything?!

Yes, it's completely obvious that the privateness of the school is utterly irrelevant to OPs post. So why are you bothering to make an issue out of it?

The smallness of the school was equally irrelevant, why didn't you make a snippy comment that "people in big schools are rude too"?

user1478860582 Mon 09-Jan-17 09:45:47

Diretires , explain what you mean by entitled? In what sense?

DireTires Mon 09-Jan-17 09:46:06

I see both private and state parents acting like entitled twits with parking.

user1478860582 Mon 09-Jan-17 09:47:20

Agree they do, but you specifically mentioned private school mums.

DireTires Mon 09-Jan-17 09:47:38

user just making the opposite argument to Bertrand! I don't think entitlement is the exclusive purview of any class of people.

gamerchick Mon 09-Jan-17 09:48:26

Can you speak to the head yourself?

Our school got the traffic wardens in at school drop off and pick up. It was the most entertaining thing I'd seen in ages. Sorted it out though.

user1478860582 Mon 09-Jan-17 09:51:02

It's ok Diretires I'm just playing devils advocate this morning!!! Sorry!

Although, I do think the sniping at private school parents strange. They pay the same tax as everyone else but don't use all the facilities those taxes pay for, thereby freeing up resources for others.

Man10 Mon 09-Jan-17 09:51:30

Perhaps the OP will clarify that I'm wrong, and that she meant us to infer something from "private."

Even having re-read the post, I see no difference between "small" and "private", to me they are just unnecessary (but perfectly reasonable) adjectives of equal weight.

Maybe this is some sort of test. How you interpret her choice of words says more about you than about the OP.

Namechangearoo Mon 09-Jan-17 09:51:56

"Multiple exclamation marks are a sure sign of a diseased mind." - Terry Pratchett.

Anyhow, back to the point: you know full well you're not being unreasonable - of course her behaviour was unacceptable. No one is going to tell you otherwise. Not sure what the point of your post was, other than a rant/ not so stealth post about your child's education?

Namechangearoo Mon 09-Jan-17 09:53:45

Unless you were looking for advice, maybe? Obviously just bring it up with the school.

NathanBarleyrocks Mon 09-Jan-17 09:56:15

There are a few drive ways around school which most people avoid Erm, surely drivers should avoid ALL driveways, not just the ones that are owned by people that kick off at the idiots breaking the law by parking across their driveways.

nannybeach Mon 09-Jan-17 09:57:03

Have had this problem, with people parking across my drive ,garage. technically, you arent allowed to park over a "dropped" curb. I had someone park across my garage, couldnt get my car out to go to work no other way to get there, well taxi 15 miles, couldnt afford that, rang Police, who said "tough its a public piece of road nothing we can do". Agrre though woman who parked over drive was just plain ill mannered, but you see it so much on the school run.

Daisyfrumps Mon 09-Jan-17 09:57:50

Driver sounds like arrogant cow-bag. Either that or (thinking the very best of her) she's completely socially awkward and was too embarrassed to engage and apologise. More likely to be the first, though.

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