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AIBU to really want some sex

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Needsomesex Sun 08-Jan-17 10:00:39

My husband works away all week, he does work hard and I am very proud of him. However, when he comes home he catches up on his sleep, goes to the gym and shows me very little affection. Sex is pretty much non existent because he falls asleep before I'm even in bed. When we have sex it's over inn two minutes and it's always me pleasuring him. I would love for him to touch my body, put my needs before his own but even after trying to talk about this it never happens. I feel like I'm becoming obsessed with needing some physical contact am I going mad?

calicocat88 Sun 08-Jan-17 11:27:53

Have you told him this?

VladmirsPoutine Sun 08-Jan-17 11:43:13

What has he said when you've raised this with him?

Therealloislane Sun 08-Jan-17 11:45:14

You'd think after working away all week he'd be gagging for it when he came back home!

My dh works night shifts & we look forward to the weekends for some "us" time.

I'd advise talking to him..

BabychamSocialist Sun 08-Jan-17 18:34:31

I don't think YABU although he probably is shattered if he works so much.

ivykaty44 Sun 08-Jan-17 18:39:39

It's not about his bring tierd though, it's about his inability to pleasure his dp, which he isn't doing. This man is getting his rocks off and did the other person in bed.

Op if have a word and ask him if every time you and he made live how would he feel if you got half way through and you asked him to stop? Every single time so he didn't have an orgasm? Cos that seems to be fair cop in his book

scaredoffallout Sun 08-Jan-17 18:51:40

YANBU at all!

Tell him how you feel.

I really want some sex too - marriage broken down in my case but still living together like ostriches not facing up to anything as too scary (in my case, I have no idea what dh thinks).

andanotheronee Sun 08-Jan-17 20:44:40

Could you try it in the mornings? My dp works 16hr days and is exhausted at night but is more than up for it after a good few hours sleep! Hope it all works out for the both of you flowers

EmeraldScorn Mon 09-Jan-17 03:08:08

You definitely are not being unreasonable at all!

If it was the other way around and you were the one not wanting to have sex, he would very likely be wanting to know why, so ask him, tell him how his lack of instigating sex makes you feel etc.

There's nearly nothing as annoying as giving but not receiving in return, it is frustrating having to be the one to pleasure whilst getting no pleasure yourself.

If he has time and energy to go to the gym, then he has time to make his wife feel wanted.

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