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AIBU to think this is really bloody cheeky?

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buckyou Sun 08-Jan-17 08:26:40

We got in laws national trust membership for Christmas last year. This year the rest of the fam didn't do adult presents as we've lots of babies on the scene all of a sudden but MIL still wanted to. Fine.

So we got them something else this year, costing £180. Now MIL is demanding that we pay their NT membership again for them which is over £100! You know, joking, but not really joking.

They are minted and very generous at Christmas but it's mainly shit we don't need / want. I'd really rather not bother! We are not poor but have a baby on the way and could do without paying for someone else's national trust membership!

Would you pay it or accidentally forget?? I just think it's so cheeky!

Peanutandphoenix Sun 08-Jan-17 08:29:14

No don't it pay it at all tell mil to fuck off in the nicest way possible the cheeky bitch.

BertrandRussell Sun 08-Jan-17 08:29:33

Just treat it as a joke. Light laugh and move on.

Note3 Sun 08-Jan-17 08:30:31

Hell no would I pay it! That's incredibly cheeky...she's basically saying you need to pay it every year now as standard!! Don't do it!

5000candlesinthewind Sun 08-Jan-17 08:31:36

Like Bert I'd treat it like a joke too.
A little tinkly laugh "oh ha ha ha wouldn't that be fab! And I'd like you to pay for our gardener! And a new handbag for me!"

NavyandWhite Sun 08-Jan-17 08:31:47

Demanding or being light hearted and joking?

What did she but you?

Anniegetyourgun Sun 08-Jan-17 08:32:41

Would you pay it or accidentally forget?

Neither. I'd tell them a year's subscription was last year's present, and consider putting my foot down about adult gift giving in future years.

NavyandWhite Sun 08-Jan-17 08:33:06

No don't it pay it at all tell mil to fuck off in the nicest way possible the cheeky bitch.

How lovely you sound.

Lilaclily Sun 08-Jan-17 08:33:55

I don't think anyone is going to tell you yabu op

BewtySkoolDropowt Sun 08-Jan-17 08:36:15

I'd say 'oh, I never thought of that this year. Would you like that as your Christmas present in future years?'

If she says yes, no thought ever had to go into their gift again. Result!

hesterton Sun 08-Jan-17 08:36:16

Tell her from next year you will go back to giving her the subscription but this year you spent their present allowance on something else. I think she's trying to say she preferred the nt membership. Brilliant present idea by the way.

buckyou Sun 08-Jan-17 08:36:43

She was laughing but went on about it for quite a while. Like 'aren't we worth it' etc. Got the impression she didn't really feel like our gift to them was enough.

They got us all sorts of stuff. But we can't really afford to spend shit loads on them just because they are loaded and MIL likes to shop!

BertrandRussell Sun 08-Jan-17 08:38:24

Laugh along. And ignore. Not worth making an issue out of.

NavyandWhite Sun 08-Jan-17 08:40:22

Oh god don't overthink it people.

buckyou Sun 08-Jan-17 08:40:43

Maybe we could just suck it up this year and then that's all they get ever again!!

Then we don't have to think of pressent ideas and they can never complain because she's gone on about wanting it this year. Plus we won't look tight for not getting it this year. Maybe that's the solution!

londonrach Sun 08-Jan-17 08:41:01

No cancel it. Its last years present. Very cheeky to ask. By the way its cheaper to cancel every year and get the three months free and cheaper still to join the scottish one. If over 60 you get a discount. Dh and i alternate joining.

coffeetasteslikeshit Sun 08-Jan-17 08:41:20

She was laughing? So it's a joke. Laugh too and say nothing.

StillStayingClassySanDiego Sun 08-Jan-17 08:43:09

Forget about it. If she brings it up again tell Dh can tell her you're not able to afford another gift.

pipsqueak25 Sun 08-Jan-17 08:49:41

it was last years present op. if it gets mentioned again. laugh it off and make a joke that you'll get the subscription and mil can buy a years supply of nappies for lo up front, then change the subject. you should also engage dh to speak to her if she's persistant or silly about it
i would remind her in her that you will not be buying for any of the adults [ if that's what you choose to do] and bear in mind if she insists on buying it does not mean you have to give back. it's her choice to spend money on potentially wanted gifts that's for her to do, perhaps it would be better she buys for lo instead if she needs to do this ?

kimlek Sun 08-Jan-17 08:50:51

Sounds like she didn't like her present this year (I'm nosily wondering what it was was). Send ungrateful and rather rude. Obviously loved the NT pressie. At least you know what to get her next year and every year.

mum2Bomg Sun 08-Jan-17 08:52:38

No way! She needs to learn that this isn't how presents work!!!

NormaSmuff Sun 08-Jan-17 08:54:21

can you tell her to her face, you would love to but you can't afford it, and glad they appreciated it last year

buckyou Sun 08-Jan-17 08:56:15

Yeah she buys for the little ones as well. Plus loads of stuff for the little ones to have at their house!

Bluntness100 Sun 08-Jan-17 08:58:40

That's quite rude, why don't they just renew it themselves?

TheMartiansAreInvadingUs Sun 08-Jan-17 08:59:02

If you do it this year, she will expect it next year again.
A life time membership would be cheaper than paying for a membership every year!
Did she actually use it?

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