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AIBU to think it's not some random woman's place to declare that my son goes home from the park?

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CloudsOfChid Sat 07-Jan-17 03:22:24

My son is 9 and quite frequently goes to the park with friends. He came in yesterday and was very quiet (a lot earlier than usual) and I asked him what was wrong. He explained some 'shouty woman' told him to go home. I asked him why and he said because he wanted to keep using the swing confused AIBU to think it wasn't her place?

bloodyteenagers Sat 07-Jan-17 03:35:49

Depends why she said for him to go home.

CloudsOfChid Sat 07-Jan-17 03:36:29

Because he wanted to keep using the swing. How could it be her place anyway? confused

MrsTerryPratchett Sat 07-Jan-17 03:36:50

It wasn't her place but are you sure that a group of 9 year olds was behaving?

There is an awful group of girls that bully all the younger children at my local park and I would happily tell them to bugger off home.

Lweji Sat 07-Jan-17 03:37:12

Did you ask him how often he uses the swing?
Were they hogging it and she told them off?
Good for her.

FeckinCrutches Sat 07-Jan-17 03:38:09

I doubt very much they were behaving.

CloudsOfChid Sat 07-Jan-17 03:40:03

I'm sure they probably were 'hogging the swing' all the children do when they get to use it, but a polite "could my son/daughter now use the swing please" wouldn't go amiss. To just shout at him and declare he goes home? confused

Lweji Sat 07-Jan-17 03:40:41

Are you sure about what went on? smile

Lweji Sat 07-Jan-17 03:42:15

I really think it might be a good idea to supervise him in the park.

Mummyoflittledragon Sat 07-Jan-17 03:44:59

Hs wanted to keep using the swing. It sounds as if perhaps she or her child asked if they could use the swing and he refused. The woman shouting at him was out of order. Refusing to let little kids have a turn would also be out of order if this is what happened. Perhaps have a word with him about sharing and not hogging stuff?

MrsTerryPratchett Sat 07-Jan-17 03:45:20

It's human nature to try to get away with what you can. If you let a group of 9 year olds police themselves for trip after trip to the park (and it sounds regular) they will misbehave. And this time they got told.

Or... they are tiny angels who never do anything and the mean lady shouted.

user1477282676 Sat 07-Jan-17 03:45:37

I saw a HORRIBLE woman once repeatedly kick a football at the swings because some older kids were on them. I was so open mouthed that I never said a word...she had little children with her....the kids swinging were only about ten or so and they left in a hurry.

I wish I'd said something.

Lweji Sat 07-Jan-17 03:48:49

And I saw a group of kids alone, about 9, throwing little stones in the direction of younger children.
I was the horrible woman who shouted at them and got them to stop.

Lweji Sat 07-Jan-17 03:50:54

Also, OP, if you think it's not another adult's place to tell your children off, them you should be supervising them yourself.

DixieNormas Sat 07-Jan-17 03:51:04

I'd be thinking there was more to it

CloudsOfChid Sat 07-Jan-17 03:53:32

Not every adult is always correct? confused

I'm a bit confused, why is it wrong that he goes to the park with friends?

FeckinCrutches Sat 07-Jan-17 03:55:14

No they aren't. Do you know he was behaving though?

DixieNormas Sat 07-Jan-17 03:59:19

Not all children tell the truth if they've been misbehaving hmm

faithinthesound Sat 07-Jan-17 04:00:36

"Don't tell my child what to do!"
"I'll stop when you start."

bloodyteenagers Sat 07-Jan-17 04:02:40

could my son/daughter now use the swing please

And what about when the other child doesn't want to get off?
Or the child swears at the adult?
Or they get off, but 30 seconds later harass the child/parent to get back onto the swing?

Lweji Sat 07-Jan-17 04:03:34

It's not wrong that they go by themselves, but they are children and they often misbehave.
Can you tell us you never have to tell him off at home?

harrypotternerd Sat 07-Jan-17 04:04:09

people are saying supervise him because he is 9. 9 year olds should be supervised while out IMO. I live in Australia and I would have child protection at my door if I let my 9 year old wander around the streets or go to the park alone. Someone at my kids school had her kids removed because she let them go off alone at that age. I am not judging you I am explaining why people are saying to supervise him.
Make sure the woman actually yelled. Kids tend to exaggerate.

misshelena Sat 07-Jan-17 04:11:15

You need to have a talk with DS about being kind to those smaller than him and being respectful towards adults. He should have given up the swing when the lady asked (I am sure she didn't go straight to "shouting")
It takes a village -- It's our collective responsibility to make sure that, among other things, small kids are not being mistreated by older ones, especially when no one is supervising the older ones.

LindyHemming Sat 07-Jan-17 04:17:34

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

FeckinCrutches Sat 07-Jan-17 04:20:06

I was just thinking the same Euphemia wink

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