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To be disappointed that the school newsletter is asking for donations of 'dressing up clothes for boys.'

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Marcipex Fri 06-Jan-17 17:26:32

So much for equal opportunities.

MrsLyons Fri 06-Jan-17 17:30:23

Perhaps they have enough for girls already and want boys to be able to dress up too? confused

Guitargirl Fri 06-Jan-17 17:30:36

Isn't it just that the nursery/reception dress up box is probably full of princess dresses and fairy wings and some boys (and girls) who like to dress up might not want to wear those things? Am failing to see what the big deal is.

Camomila Fri 06-Jan-17 17:30:59

I think what they probably mean is 'we have 20 million Disney princess dresses please don't send anymore'

But they could have phrased it better I suppose, something like 'dressing up clothes needed, occupations or superheroes would be particularly well received'

Wolfiefan Fri 06-Jan-17 17:31:57

Agree with Camomila. Probably means that they have nothing but princess dress up!

Jayfee Fri 06-Jan-17 17:32:01

Dont you differentiate when buying between boy and girl clothes? I always wanted to be the witch with powers, never a wizard.

TropicPlunder Fri 06-Jan-17 17:33:13

They could have asked for donations of dressing up clothes, and stated that they have enough princess dresses and would like a bigger range

Saukko Fri 06-Jan-17 17:33:29

It's fair enough. They should have phrased it better, but just like every "Come as a Roman Day", "Come as a Superhero Day", "Come as a Victorian Day", they don't need an army of Elsas.

I wouldn't have wanted to wear floofy dresses either. I wanted to be Michaelangelo from TMNT or Kitana from Mortal Kombat.

WorraLiberty Fri 06-Jan-17 17:33:57

I'm sorry, but my eyes appear to have rolled right out of my head.

If anyone finds them, could you return them please?

Thanks awfully.

manicinsomniac Fri 06-Jan-17 17:35:01

Depends on the age and the purpose imo.

If it's genuinely 'dressing up' rather than 'costume' then YANBU (unless the boys have complained that they don't like the selection of clothes in which case YABU)

If it's actually 'costumes' then YABU. I'm a drama teacher and it's SO much easier to get hold of great costumes for girls than boys. My costume store is bursting at the seams with stuff for any female character you can think of but boys stuff, there doesn't seem to be so much of around.

Now of course it isn't the case that girl's costumes have to be worn by the girls and boys by the boys. Often the boys play girls and vice versa.

The costume goes with sex of the character, not the child.

WheresTheEvidence Fri 06-Jan-17 17:37:00

So they don't end up with the 100 Disney Princess dresses

early30smum Fri 06-Jan-17 17:37:07

I agree it could have been worded better, without mentioning girls or boys specifically.

TropicPlunder Fri 06-Jan-17 17:38:12

Presumably though, they are not presented as boys and girls costumes, and a girl can feel free to wear a fire service uniform and a boy to wear an Elsa dress....that's probably more important than the request , but I see what you mean. The boys may have asked for something new

MrsLyons Fri 06-Jan-17 17:39:46

worra gringringrin

harderandharder2breathe Fri 06-Jan-17 17:42:07

Presumably the children can use them however they want but the school is sick of Disney princess dresses

ricepolo Fri 06-Jan-17 17:42:13

Pretty sure everyone will understand what they mean unless they're actively looking to be offended...confused

TheWrathFromHighAtopTheThing Fri 06-Jan-17 17:43:23

Is this the thing where we're all supposed to be terribly disappointed because boys don't always want to dress up as princesses or fairies?

Aaaaoooggga! MN cliche alert grin

sonlypuppyfat Fri 06-Jan-17 17:44:28

My DS never played with dolls or dresses no one stopped him he just didn't want to, some boys still like traditionally boys toys

TaggieRR Fri 06-Jan-17 17:44:37

I also assume its because they have enough princess dresses. Can't see the problem.

DameXanaduBramble Fri 06-Jan-17 17:45:28


SparkleShinyGlitter Fri 06-Jan-17 17:46:50

Maybe they have1 million flaming princess dresses and want a bit of variety.

Ok maybe they could of worded it better but unless your looking for something to be offended with today I don't think it's a big deal

WellErrr Fri 06-Jan-17 17:48:05

But they could have phrased it better I suppose, something like 'dressing up clothes needed, occupations or superheroes would be particularly well received

This is kind of the issue behind the OP's annoyance though, isn't it?

Why are 'occupations' for the boys?

Although I do agree, it's probably just too many princess dresses.

TropicPlunder Fri 06-Jan-17 17:48:43

It's not offensive, it just isn't accurate. What is a boy's dressing up outfit? A doctor's set? A police uniform? it's actually a daft request!

Strongmummy Fri 06-Jan-17 17:50:18

Yes I think you're right. It's badly worded. They should've said "we'd love to have a more diverse dress up box. Please donate x, y, z"

ITCouldBeWorse Fri 06-Jan-17 17:52:20

I think it is offensive. What is a boys costume? What is a girls costume?

Fine to say we have plenty of princess dresses.

But boys costumes is the sort of nonsense that perpetuates limiting gender roles.

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