Just want a bit of perspective on this. It might seem trivial but I would genuinely like to know.
My DS (6) meets his friend from nursery, who is at another school, twice a week for an evening activity at our local leisure centre. His friend is the younger child while my DS is my first with a little sister so I have always been a bit firmer with him. I am also foreign and grew up in an environment where children are brought up by the community so to say. I also don’t mind my DS being told off by friends as long as it’s reasonable and would always support them. His friend’s dad would have my son in the pool to play with them before or after lessons. This has helped to increase my son's confidence. We even had to change sessions to suit them as my son loves his lessons and time with them. I normally have his little sister in the pool for a bit of practice though not a good swimmer myself. He would wait for his friend outside if we finish changing first and his friend would normally have £1 to buy something from the vending machine which they would pick together and share. His dad seemed to be fine with it.
This week, we finished before them as I didn’t swim with my little girl and my son wanted to wait for his friend. He was there with both of his parents this time. His friend came out, they decided what to get and he asked his mum’s permission as it was a pack of sweets. He put the money in and my son picked the sweet from the machine. He proceeded to open it and started sharing between them. His friend’s mum then saw that and told my son to hand the pack back to his friend as it wasn’t his to share. He handed it back and his friend continued to share it but I told him to stop and not give my son any more, he had 2 already. My little girl started crying despite that I got her something earlier from the machine so my son’s friend gave her one as well. It was a pack of 10. I felt quite embarrassed by it all and have told my son we would not be waiting outside for his friend anymore and also had a word about not being too forward. I would not have picked up on it if it was the other way round as it would not matter to me who is handing the sweets out, I would probably see it as an opportunity for him to eat less sweets anyway. I have been thinking about it and just want to check if what my son did was that bad as I have found out that some things which I don’t think really matters appear to matter to other people, possibly because of culture, and would like to address it as such if it is that bad.
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Should I be addressing this with my son?
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embarassedmum2017 · 05/01/2017 13:44
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