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Left son and dog Outside tesco 10 minutes

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lollylou2876 Tue 03-Jan-17 16:27:59

This is the first time and it was 2.30pm.

Last day off school ds 9 wanted to walk the pug to tesco with us, it is our closest shop, he waited outside with the dog, whilst I went and got bread and milk, back within 5/10 minutes.

An old neighbour, who had had her children removed off ss commented I was mad leaving him outside, I said he's 9 and wanted to wait, it's daylight. But it did get me thinking wibu letting ds stay outside.

HeyMacWey Tue 03-Jan-17 16:29:01

No, I don't think so.

Grindelwaldswand Tue 03-Jan-17 16:29:09

The old woman had her children removed off her by SS ? Why is that relevant ?

harderandharder2breathe Tue 03-Jan-17 16:30:17

He's 9, of course he can stand outside s shop that you're in for 10 minutes!

Ignore the neighbour she sounds crazy

MadHattersWineParty Tue 03-Jan-17 16:30:26

Of course it's ok for a nine year old to wait outside a shop confused

Ilovecaindingle Tue 03-Jan-17 16:31:04

Maybe in her mind her kids were removed for a trivial reason and she was genuinely worried for your ds.

CheshireChat Tue 03-Jan-17 16:31:08

I remember being a similar age to your son and doing exactly that. I loved it as the dog often got fussed over so I don't see the problem.

KondosSecretJunkRoom Tue 03-Jan-17 16:31:50

If she has had children removed from her by ss, I suppose it is in her own interest to believe that it could happen to anyone for the most trivial reasons. But what you did was perfectly reasonable, don't let it bother you.

TaliZorahVasNormandy Tue 03-Jan-17 16:32:23

I left dd in the car at village shop while i popped in. She's 9, and didnt wanna get out.

Not an issue.

Floggingmolly Tue 03-Jan-17 16:32:34

Her kids weren't removed by ss because she let them stand outside a shop for 10 minutes at the age of 9...

londonrach Tue 03-Jan-17 16:34:10

Wow, it happens all the time in my town with children of similar age and dogs, so all the parents in my town need their children removing according to your neighbour. Your ds is 9 he can wait outside with the dog if he is sensible. Your child so you know what he is like. Ignore your neighbour.

Millymollymanatee Tue 03-Jan-17 16:34:56

YANBU. He's 9 FFS.

lollylou2876 Tue 03-Jan-17 16:37:08

Grind - The ss comment was maybe my kitty claws coming out, i thought it relevant, as why would I let someone's comment, who obviously failed as a parent, bother me.

lollylou2876 Tue 03-Jan-17 16:38:04

Thanks everyone x

SaucyJack Tue 03-Jan-17 16:38:16


Far more of a risk to leave your pedigree dog outside alone than with a nine year old.

Keremy Tue 03-Jan-17 16:40:59

I'm the most over protective parent going (long story) and I would have.

Woody67 Tue 03-Jan-17 16:43:25

Blimey, when I was 9 I used to go on my own to the local shops and buy my Dads fags for him!! It's a wonder any kids survived the 1970's! No YANBU.

Babyroobs Tue 03-Jan-17 16:45:35

YANBU. My kids were going round our village sometimes alone or with friends at this age, and would sometimes pop to the corner shop for me

DearMrDilkington Tue 03-Jan-17 16:45:48

Absolutely fine, ignore her.

Tbh the pug was more likely to be taken than your son anyway. Loads of dogs being stolen at the moment near me.

user1480946351 Tue 03-Jan-17 16:46:30

YABU to leave him outside a shop, obviously. But yanbu to be such a weapon with "i thought it relevant, as why would I let someone's comment, who obviously failed as a parent, bother me"

You don't know her story.

ineedamoreadultieradult Tue 03-Jan-17 16:52:54

Fine to leave him outside the shop but I would wind your neck in regarding neighbour having 'failed as a parent' you don't know everyone's story.

MeetTheMartian Tue 03-Jan-17 16:53:22

YANBU to leave him for 10mons.
At that age, both my dcs were spending much more time outside in the street playing on their own.

YY about not letting her opinion bothering her too.

PickAChew Tue 03-Jan-17 16:55:05

Another one whose mum would simply have sent them to Tesco at 9! (often used to do the 10 minute walk or cycle to our local Co-op to stock up on things like teabags and bread and pop into the nearby library)
Even by current standards, many 9 year olds are mature enough to stand outside a shop for a few minutes.

MeetTheMartian Tue 03-Jan-17 16:55:08

Ok genuine question.
What could have the neighbourg done that would have seen her dcs taken away but had nothing to do with her parenting? What sort of circumstances would lead to that? MH issues? Health issues?

TheThingsWeAdmitOnMN Tue 03-Jan-17 16:55:33

I'd be far more worried about the dog than the kid.

He's 9 years old, not 2 years old, of course it's fine.

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