I have building resentment against my MIL and I feel like I am letting it get out of control a bit.
We had a baby daughter last August and since then my MIL has become increasingly critical and overbearing. Within the first 2 weeks, she commented that I had to get into a 4 month routine asap, this was a bit impossible especially as I ebf and the baby was born at only 7lb.
She has made various comments about how she always wanted to steal babies and take them away and MIL continually watches me with DD. MIL always asks when she can take DD for the night to which I have to remind her through clenched teeth that she can't as I bf. Everytime they visit MIL snatches the pram if on a walk and constantly tries to take DS out. She always asks my husband in front of me "is she alright" meaning am I coping ok as I don't seem to be!
They came for dinner over Christmas, to which they invited themselves to stay the night in our small house, the MIL bought up a second hand plastic huge highchair and loads of presents that we specifically asked not to get as we simply don't have the space for them. I purposely don't dress my DD in girly dresses which are the only type of clothes my MIL buys for her, and I know she is disappointed that I don't make DD more girly.
I had put DD down for the evening while we had dinner and she was crying a bit, MIL said she was going to the loo but instead went into my bedroom and picked up DD to "soothe" her. DD became hysterical and I spent my evening trying to calm her down. How I didn't throw MIL out of my house I do not know. She also criticised my husband about the meal etc.
So basically, in essence, I feel judged, over protective and territorial over my baby and I feel MIL is trying to control me with the highchair, baby bouncer, clothes etc. My husband has told MIL that she is taking our choices away from us when she gives us stuff as we have such limited room and we wanted not to spoil the baby. When MIL now comes to visit I don't want to let her hold DS and I almost start having panic attacks.
I know I should man up and have a talk with her but am I just being unreasonable? I know I am sleep deprived etc :-)
Thanks in advance!
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Harveyrabbit76 · 03/01/2017 10:49
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