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AIBU to dress my sons the same?

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ExhaustedandScatterBrained Tue 03-Jan-17 09:56:56

I have 2 sons aged 2 and 1 (14 months age gap) i generally put them in the same clothes. This is purely so i dont have to find 2 different outfits every morning. Its mainly jeans/joggers with a longsleeved top. A friend has told me i shouldn't be dressing them the same as they are individuals. Are they not still individuals when wearing the same clothes lmao hmm?

So tell me, aibu to do this whilst they are still young enough to not care what clothes they have on?

Manumission Tue 03-Jan-17 09:59:28

I've never seen "lmao hmm?" before.

Are you actually laughing?

And isn't finding two matching outfits more work? What if one of the tops you want isn't ironed?

elQuintoConyo Tue 03-Jan-17 09:59:29

If they are too young to care, then crack on.

If anyone says anything just guffaw and say bliney, is that all you've got to worry about?

I often had the same outfit as my dsis, 2 years older, it never bothered me. I think it stopped when my sister was 10/11.

Flingmoo Tue 03-Jan-17 10:00:23

I've seen younger and older siblings dressed the same plenty of times. It's cute.

AmberEars Tue 03-Jan-17 10:00:34

Personally I wouldn't do this, it's your choice though.

Elllicam Tue 03-Jan-17 10:01:23

I do the same with mine (4 and 2). They like to dress the same and it is easier to see them quickly in soft plays etc. I'm about to have a third so think I will stop dressing them the same soon. It might look odd to have 3 the same grin

elQuintoConyo Tue 03-Jan-17 10:01:23

Lmao = laughing my arse off.

And I'm actually lmao that anyone irons baby clothes gringringrin

Manumission Tue 03-Jan-17 10:01:26

I wouldn't say it's cute but I wouldn't get worked up about it either way. Or a friend's opinion.

dowhatnow Tue 03-Jan-17 10:02:18

I don't like it either, certainly not in older kids. IMO they are individuals so should be treated as such.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Tue 03-Jan-17 10:02:26

I found it better to dress them the same when younger and out and about. Much easier to keep tabs on them if you know they are all wearing a red jumper etc.

Shenanagins Tue 03-Jan-17 10:02:48

My two want to dress the same/similar which personally I didn't like for some airy fairy reasons similar to your friends. Now I've been ground down and don't care, as long as they are warm, comfortable and happy who cares smile.

Manumission Tue 03-Jan-17 10:03:19

You don't iron an2 year old's top quinto? Why not?

I know what LMAO means. But she seemed a bit conflicted, what with the hmm face straight after grin

Socksey Tue 03-Jan-17 10:03:34

My mother used to do this to me and my younger DSis.... I hated it

TheresABluebirdOnMyShoulder Tue 03-Jan-17 10:05:50

Not sure how it's more work to dress them differently. I don't like siblings dressed in the same outifts. I agree with your friend that they are separate people and I just find it weird to see kids dressed the same. I wouldn't go out in the same clothes as my partner. I don't know whether it's because it looks like they are little clones or it kind of looks like they've been dressed up as if they are dolls for the fun of the parents.

Anyway, it doesn't matter what I think or what your friend thinks. They're your children and I doubt very much that you are doing them any psychological harm.

Scarydinosaurs Tue 03-Jan-17 10:07:03

I definitely don't iron my two year olds top. No need. She isn't going out to work, she's playing in dirt and covering it in snot.

I took the LMAO to mean she found the idea ridiculous and the hmm face conveyed her scepticism towards 1 and 3 year olds feeling marginalised in their individuality due to wearing a vaguely similar outfit to the other.

TheMortificadosDragon Tue 03-Jan-17 10:07:20

Maybe the OP was laughing at the idea that a person is defined by what they wear?

TheresABluebirdOnMyShoulder Tue 03-Jan-17 10:08:19

I'm also a bit amazed that anyone has time for ironing baby clothes. Maybe I'm a total slattern but we go through that many outifts, I'd do nothing else! As long as you fold them straight out of the tumble drier they're fine.

Scarydinosaurs Tue 03-Jan-17 10:08:24

My two used to match as it was easier, now the younger one has inherited the older ones clothes that she previously matched so they're just roughly the same. It does make life easier when hunting for outfits. But then I'm a slummy mum picking stuff out of the clean pile as I haven't put it away yet, let alone washed it.

Manumission Tue 03-Jan-17 10:09:16

Oh I see. Well I wouldn't get worked about it at all OP.

If she's short of things to honk about, send her here. We'll keep her out of your hair talking nonsense about nothing smile

Figure17a Tue 03-Jan-17 10:09:41

They're hardly being individuals if someone else is choosing their clothes whatever they are.

As Pp said though,it seems like making work, not saving it to me. Instead of just putting them in the first thing you pick up, you have to find all the matching bits.

The main drawback for me,especially when young and clothes are outgrown when barely worn would be not handing anything down. What a waste!

MsVestibule Tue 03-Jan-17 10:10:19

There's a 15 month age gap between my sister and I, and we often wore matching outfits. Didn't make any difference to our individuality.

However, I DID (silently) object to my mum asking a dressmaker to make her and my three sisters matching sundresses for us to wear to a family wedding when I was 12.

MusicalChairsOh Tue 03-Jan-17 10:10:29

Lmao at ironing baby clothes too.
I have a 17 month age gap with my 2 and they sometimes wear the same clothes, not something I put too much thought into though.

Manumission Tue 03-Jan-17 10:11:02

I'm also a bit amazed that anyone has time for ironing baby clothes. Maybe I'm a total slattern but we go through that many outifts, I'd do nothing else!

Interesting. To me it's matching everything that sounds like an incredible faff and ironing small things I don't mind. Different kind of slattern obviously.

MuppetsChristmasCarol Tue 03-Jan-17 10:11:54

I wouldn't do this and think it's a bit cringeworthy. I suppose it doesn't matter as long as they're dressed appropriately - but how hard is it just to grab two different joggers and tops?

Your kids, you do whatever you want though. Unless you invited your friend to comment on it (as you have done so here) it's not her place to say.

DailyFail1 Tue 03-Jan-17 10:13:05

I personally would dress younger one exclusively in hand-me-downs until school age and older one in cheapo new clothes, so you're already winning by getting them new matching outfits lol.

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