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To have sex in my own house when we have guests?

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SeriousCreativeBlock Tue 03-Jan-17 01:11:42

My friend and her 4 year old ds turned up at my house for New Years with the intention of staying six days (this is a whole other issue, she knows I have a deadline coming up next week and I am stressed). Her visit, and the last just before Christmas, has been a constant series of put downs ranging from remarking on my father's "failing business", questioning my parenting, naming my dd a sociopath and a "mini Donald Trump" (she's FOUR!) and gaslighting me regarding my mental illness.

This evening, at half 12 at night, dp and I had sex. We were very quiet, although the bed creaks slightly. Afterwards, I went into the kitchen where she launched into a tirade about how I could have waited until her son was asleep.

AIBU to think that a small child should really be asleep at 12:30, and that I should be able to have sex in my own house without being made to feel guilty? I feel like I'm being shamed for having an active sex life.

DailyFail1 Tue 03-Jan-17 01:13:32

Tell her to fuck off out of your house. Why is she even there if she treats you like that OP?

Pseudonym99 Tue 03-Jan-17 01:14:47

Just fuck your other half. Invite her to join in if she wants. If not, suggest her child should have been asleep.

MillionToOneChances Tue 03-Jan-17 01:15:17

Time for her to go home.

Graphista Tue 03-Jan-17 01:15:36

Why the hell are you letting her stay? People don't just turn up and expect to be accommodated for SIX DAYS insult the host and their children and try to tell them how to behave in their own home!

Tell her to fuck off!

Maverickismywingman Tue 03-Jan-17 01:15:37

Get her out. It's your house. Why is your DP (and why are you?) allowing her to treat you like garbage too?

Redglitter Tue 03-Jan-17 01:16:33

Her hearing you having sex quite honestly sounds like the least of your problems

Why are you eveneed friends with her let alone allowing her to stay 6 days. I'd be helping her pack first thing in the morning

pieceofpurplesky Tue 03-Jan-17 01:17:06

How long did she stay before Christmas and why is she staying?

HappyGoLuckyGirl Tue 03-Jan-17 01:17:47

Walk her arse out the door. Then shut it.

Groovee Tue 03-Jan-17 01:18:02

I'd tell her to go home and not come back.

Winniethepooer Tue 03-Jan-17 01:19:36

Why? Just why ?

oldlaundbooth Tue 03-Jan-17 01:23:21

Frogmarch her ass out of the house tomorrow morning, no breakfast.

See ya.

SeriousCreativeBlock Tue 03-Jan-17 01:25:29

Thanks for all your replies.

She also told me that she had told all her friends what I was doing (as if it were a crime) including one mutual friend, and threatened that if it ever happened again she would snapchat my brother hmm

Up until the last visit, she had never behaved like this towards me. The last two visits she's been condescending constantly, rearranging my fridge and my cupboards, commenting negatively on the painting I've done in the living room, and picking my 4 year old on every single little mistake that she makes, while letting her son get away with murder.

I'm honestly exhausted by it now, but don't have the balls to ask her to leave.

I also had a miscarriage a couple of weeks ago that I'm still not entirely over emotionally, so was unsure about whether I was being oversensitive because of this.

QueenMortificado Tue 03-Jan-17 01:26:00

She isn't your friend

I suggest you have sex in multiple positions all over the house, including outside her bedroom until she gets the message to fuck off

QueenMortificado Tue 03-Jan-17 01:27:04

if it ever happened again she would snapchat my brother

Ooooh, what a threat! I presume your brother thinks you're the fucking Virgin Mary and conceived your daughter through the miracle of immaculate conception?

HateSummer Tue 03-Jan-17 01:29:49

Omg. I couldn't live like this. You should have called dh down stairs and had sex infront of her on the kitchen counter. That'd drive her out. Stupid cow.

QueenLizIII Tue 03-Jan-17 01:32:41

Does she have a car? If so tell her to get out right now and block her everywhere.

Maverickismywingman Tue 03-Jan-17 01:32:53

Bloody hell. Sex is not the crime of the century.

Tell her that you'll tell all of your friends what a nitpicking freeloading cow she is.

And if you don't want to ask her to leave, maybe your DP could do that. Surely it's not nice for DP with her being there either?

napmeistergeneral Tue 03-Jan-17 01:33:10

Tell her to leave immediately (well, in the morning). YANBU. Outrageous.

TitaniasCloset Tue 03-Jan-17 01:33:53

What a weirdo, why is she trying to control you in your own home? Can she not hear herself when she speaks?

CakesRUs Tue 03-Jan-17 01:35:21

She doesn't sound like much of a friend to me. The nerve!

kel12345 Tue 03-Jan-17 01:38:09

How dare she. It's your house, you have the right to have sex where and when you want. Nothing to do with anyone else.

TheWoodlander Tue 03-Jan-17 01:40:26

Sit her down tomorrow morning, preferably with your DH to back you up, and tell her calmly that you are cutting the visit short, and she needs to go home now. Tell her gently but firmly that you will not be bossed about and then threatened in your own home.

Snapchat your brother ffs! Who does she think she is?

She's no friend, and you will feel a bit guilty, but amazingly free when you have done this.

ohtheholidays Tue 03-Jan-17 01:42:10

If you don't feel like you can ask her to leave then get your DP to tell her to leave first thing in the morning!

She sounds bloody toxic and she's behaving unhinged!

I'm sorry about your miscarriage it'a bloody awful thing to go through,I've suffered one myself,please be kind to yourself get rid of her and cut contact flowers

indigox Tue 03-Jan-17 01:43:09

Tell her to get out of your home.

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