I don't know how to start this nicely. So.
When I was a kid I was messed around with sexually. It was constant from toddler and until teenager and I've done lots of counselling which has helped loads.
I'm in a long term relationship with DP. Sex has always been mixed up even with people before DP. Sometimes it's great and I enjoy it. Sometimes I find it too intrusive and too much and the mess is too disgusting and afterwards I sit in the bath and cry until I'm sick.
For a while now we haven't had sex at all. Nothing triggered this drought but I've become terrified and cant see sex as anything except disgusting and intrusive and violating.
My DP knows my story and is understanding, patient etc. Other than this our relationship is everything I could ask for. We've talked openly about it but everything he suggests panics me (my fault, not his!). I'm now considering going to see a psychosexual therapist. I'm hoping that I could do a short set of sessions focused on fixing the problem. I don't want to go back into long term counselling.
AIBU to think this might help? I don't know if I'm too messed up and should just accept it. I don't know what to do and thought someone on here might have tried this type of therapy. Think I might just need a hand to hold.
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Seeing a psychosexual therapist? (Possible trigger)
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PandoraHatesTheBox · 02/01/2017 17:24
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