Hi all, bit of a long back story but I am struggling with DH ex wife long history of issues she's on the narcissist spectrum IMO.
Been to court this year for child access etc. They have two DC together 13 & 9. Some DH and his ex spilt various times during their marriage and the last time she thought they would get back together but obv didn't. He and I then got together. I was never the OW.
Fast forward 4 and a half years we have married. Relations are strained beaten them She will put anything in the way of contact I.e new hobbies for the children etc during time they are scheduled to be with their Dad and lowest of the low made accusations about my DD physically abusing / beating DSD which were completely unfounded etc but ex wife just cannot help herself. She continues to make everything drawn out and complicated and is has had an effect on us all. I was particularly stressed during the summer and for the first time ever experienced anxiety. It freaks me out just not knowing what BS she will throw at any of us at anytime either via very inflammatory solicitors / email or text.
The children are happy when with us but always very cautious about enjoying themselves because they feel bad to their mum. She says things like "it's just not the same without you here when you're at daddy's" etc so the poor little things are just all over the place.
This Christmas period she has completely overlooked the contact order and DH has agreed with the alternative she has suggested just because he didn't want any issues and just wants to spend time with his DC. She has blocked contact for no reason at various times when she hasn't got something she's asked for.
So this Christmas holiday ex wife has taken it upon herself to drop by at our house. Unannounced etc to check the children are ok, to bring something DSD forgot and to check DSD didn't want to go home yesterday when they are not due to go home until tomorrow. AIBU to react adversely to this?? I feel like home is the only "safe" place we have and she can't even stay away from here?? DSS (13) has a phone, she knows the land line number so has alternative contact methods and we never block these.
Sorry for the long rambly post but I am just at the end of my tether. WWYD?? TIA xx
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pleasepassthevino · 01/01/2017 10:52
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