Our 5week old DS was hospitalised this week and ofcourse it was a very sad/scary time. I stayed at the hospital with him - not leaving once.
(Good news) we came home last night and I was so excited too have a New Year's Eve in with the children and DP. The house was in such a state when I came home. But I chose to overlook it and decided I'd sort it today after DS2's hospital appointment.
However literally 10 mins of me walking through the door, I was ambushed with demands requests.
For example, the washing up, clean his work shirts, tidy the living room, etc. It really pissed me off as during all of this I was feeding, especially as due to being so poorly he was mostly syringe fed, so he's getting used to bf again so a lot of readjusting his latch etc.
Then comes bed time and ofcourse DS2 doesn't want to settle in his cradle. No surprises there's he's been cuddled non stop for a week, is still poorly still fitted with 2 canulas, so on.
DP was snappy and moody because in all honesty -I'm ashamed to say- he wanted to dtd and the attention I was showing DS2 was getting in the way of that.
I have woken up today so, so angry. And not sure if I even want to speak to him particularly. How can he be so selfish?
I don't want too 'LTB' but honestly his selfishness and lack of help is next level so maybe my choices are limited.
I can just about cope with the amount of housework and his stroppiness when both children are well 
Am I overreacting?!
AIBU?
To be so angry with DP?
Rinmybell · 01/01/2017 09:27
I'm so sorry to hear your DS has been in hospital, OP. It must have been terrifying for you. 
So the day you get home, your DP wants you to get all the housework done, clean HIS work shirts, and do every other domestic chore under the sun, whilst looking after a baby who has until earlier that day been in hospital, whilst pressurising you to have sex (and only 5 weeks after you gave birth, too).
Wow. He sounds vile.
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Oh goodness. If you don't want to LTB then you have a responsibility to sort him out. You can't live with someone who behaves like that, it's a terrible example to your kids even if you're willing to be treated like that yourself. So you need to tell him straight to get his act together and sort out the shirts and washing up himself and that if he ever strops about no sex again, there will be no sex for a month. You are in a very weak position if you are unwilling to LTB.
Bloody hell, that's very close to victim blaming. He needs to sort himself out. OP is venting. She says she's not LTB. He's probably fine most of the time and although MN would have it otherwise we don't all divorce at every transgression.
OP, give him a royal bollocking and move on. Unless there's much, much more we don't know.
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