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NaughtyNC Sat 31-Dec-16 20:00:50

NC. Curious about this one.

My great aunt has left me about large sum of money.

She has 8 great nieces and nephews - i am the only great niece. My family (not my parents, they are going to split equally) are very much “money is left to males” only. My cousins hadn’t seen her in the ten (fifteen years for some) years before she died. I visited every time I could, helped with the house and went on holiday together twice a year, plus had her stay in London twice a year for a couple of days each time.

I didn't know anything about the money, or that she had that much. Apparently she spoke to my brother about it (he's an executor to the will) and my parents have known for years but didn't tell me incase she changed her mind.

My aunt has gone ape shite and wants me to share the money with her two boys (well all of them, but says it's unfair on her two boys). My brother has told me not to be a dick because her two boys both received 60,000 when my granddad died (they all did) and i received sweet FA. At that time there was no mention of any of them splitting the money with me. All the boys will receive the house and my nana’s savings when she dies.

What would you do?

SallyInSweden Sat 31-Dec-16 20:03:48

Tell her to go fuck herself

pklme Sat 31-Dec-16 20:03:57

I would follow your brother's advice. He and your parents knew, it was a deliberate decision on her part. You have missed out on other legacies. I would ignore your aunt.

LIZS Sat 31-Dec-16 20:04:03

It will cause ill feeling whatever you do. Do the others not benefit at all? The executor should follow the wishes of your great aunt.

SuburbanRhonda Sat 31-Dec-16 20:04:20

She made her intentions clear in her will. The inheritance is yours alone and it sounds like she's made the right decision.

MrsMozart Sat 31-Dec-16 20:04:29

Keep it. She left it to you.

MillionToOneChances Sat 31-Dec-16 20:07:14

Fuck that. You had an actual relationship with her which they did not. Also, being female doesn't make you not part of their family.

Keep every penny of your inheritance and just ignore anyone suggesting otherwise because they are beneath contempt.

WaitroseCoffeeCostaCup Sat 31-Dec-16 20:09:12

It's yours! Enjoy it!

Sassypants82 Sat 31-Dec-16 20:10:14

Absolutely keep every red cent. As she intended you too. End of story.

Sassypants82 Sat 31-Dec-16 20:10:54

**intended you to

lalalalyra Sat 31-Dec-16 20:12:08

She made her intentions clear, and quite probably did so because a) you have a relationship with her and b) she knew you got nothing when your grandfather died.

I'd tell your Aunt that since there was no "even up" discussed when your grandfather died and you were the one who was left out you fail to see why your Aunt's wishes shouldn't be equally respected.

BabySocksNeverStayOn Sat 31-Dec-16 20:12:09

It's yours!

gamerchick Sat 31-Dec-16 20:12:11

Ask where your share was in past monies.

Keep it and enjoy.

Soubriquet Sat 31-Dec-16 20:12:28

Keep it!!

Though can you clarify this?

She has 8 great nieces and nephews - i am the only great niece

Bit confusing

Fiona2609 Sat 31-Dec-16 20:13:30

The reason you make a will, your last will & testament, is to stipulate how you wish to dispose of your estate. If it were just a question of divvying everything up equally, it wouldn't be such a formal process and doubtless the state would also want its share.
Clearly your great-aunt wanted you to benefit from her estate. Respect her wishes and ask that others do, too.

FishlessCake Sat 31-Dec-16 20:14:27

Please keep it all, your relationship with your aunt obviously meant a lot to her flowers. If they were in your position they wouldn't even consider you.

arethereanyleftatall Sat 31-Dec-16 20:14:45

I'd keep it. But only because of the grandad and what happened with his money. She hasn't got a leg to stand on because of that.
If it hadn't been for that, I might be tempted to share it, but actually that's clearly not what your great aunt wanted.
Keep it.

RandomMess Sat 31-Dec-16 20:15:48

It's yours, it was what your Aunt wanted!!

I cannot believe all this sexist sh*t that only the males inherit shock

NancyJoan Sat 31-Dec-16 20:17:10

Keep it. She left it to you, both because of you being you, but also because she felt the idea that only boys inherit is archaic and unfair (I'm guessing here).

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface Sat 31-Dec-16 20:17:32

You follow the will.

That's why she wrote it. For people to follow.

Anything else is disrespecting her wishes and not really on.

QuarterMileAtATime Sat 31-Dec-16 20:18:59

Keep it, and remind your aunt of the other times that you were excluded. I'd be interested in what she has to say about that. Handy for them that you are the only Great Niece, or I expect this would have come up before!

JustHereForThePooStories Sat 31-Dec-16 20:19:12

*Though can you clarify this?

She has 8 great nieces and nephews - i am the only great niece

Bit confusing*

How is that confusing? 1 great niece + 7 great nephews gives a total of 8.

RebelandaStunner Sat 31-Dec-16 20:19:12

I would keep it and enjoy every penny.
It was your great aunts money and she wanted you to have it. Naff all to do with your interfering aunt.

SuburbanRhonda Sat 31-Dec-16 20:19:23


I read it as eight altogether, though only one is a niece (the OP).

Soubriquet Sat 31-Dec-16 20:21:41

That makes sense now. Thank you Rhonda and PooStories

Couldn't get my head round it. Brain is a little slow today. Strong painkillers

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