or am I the problem?
So background - all of which is fact.
Moved into new house 3 years ago, its a new estate so lots of new neighbours. Our immediate neighbours were very friendly initially - he even helped us put up some shelves and they invited us in for new years eve dinner party which was really kind of them.
Husband is nice enough, wife isn't my type of person in that she's very loud, quite materialistic - by no means a horrible person just not for me.
We continued to chat for a year or so - every time we did though she would gossip about someone - one of her friends, another neighbour etc and I got the sense that this was her thing and decided never really to share any personal information with them.
Things have gradually gone down hill - there is absolutely no ill feelings but we literally never talk any more - her hubby will say hello to me and chat with my dh but she totally ignores me and I don't make a lot of effort to speak to her. There was some minor friction during the first summer when they refused to split us for the cost of the shared fence (and then attached their decking to it!) but no fall outs.
I just don't trust her, I don't like her personality and therefore, for a quiet life, I just keep my head down - if she looked me in the eye tomorrow I'd smile and say hello.
However, what bothers me is that they are now very friendly with all of our other neighbours - having dinner parties, bbq's etc - I'm not jealous but it does make me wonder if I'm the weirdo that no one wants to speak to? I'll say hi to my other neighbours and have a brief chat but that's about it. I'm not the warmest of people when I don't know someone so can come across shy or prickly and I feel that we are a bit isolated now - which is ironic given that some of these neighbours were the ones she was bitching about previously. Their kids are the same ages as these other neighbours so go to same school/nursery so there is obviously common interests (our dh is a bit younger) and she is quite forward in arranging social things whereas we aren't.
So, am I right to just keep my head down - or do I need to make more of an effort to avoid being the village weirdo??
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kitkat321 · 30/12/2016 22:07
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