I don't think I was, but am second guessing myself now that I'll have offended them by sending it back.
A couple of days ago I took my elderly neighbour to an emergency GP appt. in a nearby town. His wife had come round to ask me to ring 111 (I'd told her to not hesitate to call on me if there was anything I could do to help), and I sort of took over a bit and organised (Tuesday, bank holiday, so a bit more complicated than usual) an appt. and took them there etc.
Yesterday his wife popped round with a lovely card and a wrapped present (lovely chocolates!) to say thank you. All fab and I was very touched, but they also put £30 in the card with a very sweet message (that he wanted to buy me a plant to enjoy now and plant out in the spring, but he wasn't allowed out to buy it ), which I just feel is far too much and not necessary at all.
My DP agreed with my feeling that we shouldn't accept it, so I made a card and wrote that I was very touched and really enjoyed the chocolates (we did!), but that I couldn't accept that and I'd rather he grew me a plant in the spring instead. He said in the car that he hasn't had the energy to get his broad beans going - usually he loves his garden and grows lots of veg, of which he gives me some sometimes. I thought maybe it would give him an impetus to get some seedlings growing, but now I'm worried that I've just put unnecessary pressure on him and rejected a gift that was given kindly. I returned the money in the card and put it through the door last night, and haven't heard from them today (not that I expected to).
Did I do the wrong thing? What on earth is the protocol there? I don't want to offend him or reject his gift/wound his pride, but I don't want them to give us their pension money, either!!
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TatterdemalionAspie · 30/12/2016 18:31
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