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Patriciathestripper1 · 30/12/2016 12:13

Back story- Dh, youngest DD and I moved to new country for a change of lifestyle following a life changing event.
We made friends although we live very rural mainly other mums/dads through toddler club and then school.
About 3 years ago we got mail addressed to a woman down road and took it down on our way into town. Dh dropped it down whilst I stayed in car and he was ages well over half an hour. So he comes back how full of what a lovely woman she is. she has dogs and a horse and He said that I would go riding with her.
Fair enough as we have horses.
Fast forward a year and we are all good friends although this woman (who is still single and has a string of bad relationships) rings Dh constantly for help, has had nights out to pub with Dh, (which I don't due to lack of babysitter and no family around). And when we have managed to go out for early evening drinks, she says put me down comments like 'are you still here?'
Now I'm not the jealous type, never have been but she started to piss me off to the point where I asked Dh not to go drinking with her anymore which he didn't. But we were still friends and she used to drop in to house with bottle of wine and we used to go riding together.
Fast forward to date and she now has a dp who she lives with. It's not a stable relationship and they constantly fight (verbal) and we have put her up here on several occasions but she always goes back to him.
A couple of months ago Dh and I had a falling out which escalated into a high row then some and he flew back to England for a couple of weeks. (First propoer fight in nearly 20 years).
Whilst he was gone our 'friend came to see me everyday telling me what I should be doing and what to txt him ect... looking back now she seemed to want us to split. Well we didn't and he came home. She was furious about it telling me how stupid I was ect. Then over the space of a week she went nc with me, wouldn't return txt or answer calls.
I found out Dh had rung her (he told me) never really got to bottom of what call was about but apparently he had asked her to mediate with us so we could talk without arguing which she refused to do which is fair enough.
So, about two weeks went by. Dh kept asking if I'd heard from her.
In the end I txt her to ask what was wrong and had I done something wrong?
She sent me a horrible txt back saying I'd let Dh come between our freindship, rubbishing him as a parent because we had argued infront of our DD the day he had left, and that she didn't need friends like me who only got in touch when their Dh were at work!
I still don't know what I have done and Dh would be devastated as he adores Dd and would walk through flames for her.
He still asks if I've heard from friend but I don't know wether to tell him about the txt or not. I just don't understand how someone could just cut a freindship dead or have I been nieve and she was never really my friend?

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Milklollies · 30/12/2016 12:18

The woman sounds like a psychopath. Let your dh read my message as well if you like. The two of you never had problems like her in your lives before so things were great. You both should cut contact and tell your dh all about her behaviour about how she was trying to break you two up. I would count yourselves lucky that she has cut contact as she hasn't been able to fuck up your lives.