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AIBU to take kids on dream holiday without DH?

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helpmeplease2045 Thu 29-Dec-16 10:55:27

I'm totally prepared to here I am being unreasonable!

I've always wanted to go to Hong Kong and since having cancer a few years ago have to admit I've had a bit more of a 'you only live once' spontaneous attitude!

I've found cheap flights and accommodation in Hong Kong and kids have ten days off in February.

DH very much not interested, would rather do nothing in February and I pushed could be forced to go on Europe city break (he muttered something about Berlin).

I have my own savings and Christmas money, I also work so would not be taking money out of the family pot.

AIBU to ditch DH for ten days and take DS 6 and DD 3 to Hong Kong by myself?

Spam88 Thu 29-Dec-16 10:59:25

How does he feel about that? I would have said YABU if it was because he couldn't get the time off or something, but if he's just not interested... definitely wouldn't go if he'd be upset by it though.

Finola1step Thu 29-Dec-16 11:00:14

Do it.

WannaBe Thu 29-Dec-16 11:03:28

What do you think the DC will get from going though? It's your dream holiday, and yanbu to want to go, however I don't imagine that it would be that much fun for a six and three year old (eight hour time difference, major jetlag, thirteen hour flights, and that's just to get there,) I'd imagine that a dream holiday for you could well turn into a nightmare with six and three year olds in the mix.

SeaweedSa1ad Thu 29-Dec-16 11:04:18

Go, do it. Have a great time, it's a great place! And congrats on the remission / successful treatment.

gamerchick Thu 29-Dec-16 11:05:22

Do it, you'll have a fab time.

Don't compromise on a different country to accommodate him. You may not get an opportunity like this again.

NicknameUsed Thu 29-Dec-16 11:05:47

Do it.

DD had always wanted to go to Florida and do the theme park thing. This year she and I went without OH. It was a joint 16th birthday/post GCSE present.

OH wasn't the least bit interested. It wasn't his kind of holiday and he was happy for us to go without him. We did have a family holiday later in the year as well though.

NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom Thu 29-Dec-16 11:06:13

I'd go but I wouldn't take the 3 & 6 year old with me.

mumeeee Thu 29-Dec-16 11:06:15

YOU. I think a 6 and 3 year old wouldn't get anything from a Holiday in Hong Kong.
It is your dream holiday not theirs and it could actually turn into a nightmare for your.

OurBlanche Thu 29-Dec-16 11:06:17

Leave the kids, take a friend?

YANBU to go, but 2 small kids might take the shine of for you!

Peppapogstillonaloop Thu 29-Dec-16 11:06:29

I don't think he leaving dh is an issue at all! I do think that will be a hard work flight/jet lag/tripping about with two that age on your could be a very exhausting trip! Could you wait until kids a little older? Anywhere else on your list of dream hols?

happychristmasbum Thu 29-Dec-16 11:07:57

Agree with PP - I would go with a friend.

Shockers Thu 29-Dec-16 11:12:21

I took DS1 to Thailand (Pukhet and Bangkok) when he was almost 7. He doesn't remember a thing about it!

I'd go with a friend so you can fully immerse yourself.

NicknameUsed Thu 29-Dec-16 11:15:19

Having thought it through, and having been to Hong Kong I don't think a 3 year old and a six year old would get much out of it, neither would you with them in tow.

There is a Disneyland in HK, but it is a long way to travel to something that is available a lot closer and easier to get to in Paris.

Also the jetlag after flying to HK is horrible.

Doyoufeelluckypunk Thu 29-Dec-16 11:16:36

I would definitely take the DC without DP if he isn't up for a holiday.

However, I don't think I would take them to Hong Kong, having been I'm not sure that they would get a great deal out of it.

Is there an opportunity for you to visit Hong Kong alone/ with a friend and then take the DC on a different holiday?

lunchboxtroubles Thu 29-Dec-16 11:23:34

what are a 6 and 3 year old going to do in Hong Kong? I'd go on your own whenever you can. will be rubbish having to look after two tired fractious children of that age.

OnionKnight Thu 29-Dec-16 11:25:49

What are the kids going to do in Hong Kong? I'd go without them.

LindyHemming Thu 29-Dec-16 11:26:47

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Loopytiles Thu 29-Dec-16 11:27:10

It'd be better to go without the DC. The money you'd be spending is still "family money" IMO.

Yetanothernewyearusername Thu 29-Dec-16 11:32:37

I0 days in Hong Kong is too much. There isn't really very much to do and even less with children as lots is nightlife.

Where else will you go? Lots of cheap local flights. I like Macau but it is an acquired taste. In the summer I am doing a few days in Hong Kong and then out to Vietnam and back.

Feb is a cold month for Hong Kong (no sunbathing) but not overly rainy.

KitKat1985 Thu 29-Dec-16 11:34:01

If your DH isn't bothered then I think going without him is fine. I do agree with PP that managing a 3 and 6 year olds on long flight, with jet-lag, and trying to keep them entertained in Hong Kong doesn't sound that fun to me though.

Yetanothernewyearusername Thu 29-Dec-16 11:36:21

With children I would go to Singapore personally. More child friendly and lots more to do.

Yetanothernewyearusername Thu 29-Dec-16 11:36:50

Iceland is rather wonderful.

BarbarianMum Thu 29-Dec-16 11:38:00

Plenty of things in Hong Kong for small children to enjoy- but are they the things that you want to be doing? We took a trip of a lifetime to the Far East this summer and our kids, at 10 and 8, were really only just old enough to enjoy a lot of the things that dh and I wanted to do.

Bubbinsmakesthree Thu 29-Dec-16 11:39:14

YANBU to go on holiday without DH.

YABU to take a 6 and 3 year old to Hong Kong for 10 days - I love Hong Kong but don't think children that age will get much out of it.

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