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or does DH not know me at all

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WottyMcWottFace Mon 26-Dec-16 15:01:53

Not really sure if its an AIBU but not sure where else to post.
DH and I normally just do little gifts at Christmas and focus on the children but this year as I turn 30 the day after boxing day he decided to get me a big surprise as a joint gift, he's been telling me how much i'll like this and i'll never guess what it is. Anyway Xmas eve comes and he cant contain his excitement so runs in with a big box shouting surprise!! he got one thing right, I was definitely surprised when I opened the box to find a laptop. Don't get me wrong its a very nice red one but its still a laptop just a newer one than I already have that still works perfectly well. I feel awful as my face must have said it all and although I smiled and said how lovely it was I couldn't hide my dismay. I feel really ungrateful but its not so much the gift itself its the realisation that he really doesn't know me at all. a bunch of flowers or a card made by our kids would have been plenty and really greatly received. I'm not sure if I'm just over sensitive as I near my 30s or if he really believes that a laptop is something classed as a memorable milestone gift??

Laiste Mon 26-Dec-16 15:10:37

Oh dear. I think he fell into the trap of buying something he would have liked/been delighted with. Did you hint at anything else specific as a present?

Claire7984 Mon 26-Dec-16 15:13:06

what would you have preferred? do you spend a lot of time on your current laptop? my oh bought me a Google pad which was a total surprise.

PaperdollCartoon Mon 26-Dec-16 15:21:08

Bless him, it is a big special present even if it doesn't feel the right one for you. Laptop technology moves preset fast so it may well be much better than the one you've got. I'm turning 30 next year so I understand what you mean, I'd rather jewellery or a trip for that price but I do think it's classed as a 'big present'

PaperdollCartoon Mon 26-Dec-16 15:21:30

Pretty fast*

KC225 Mon 26-Dec-16 15:26:26

Classic case of him buying something he would like. I know what you mean though, it's the lack of thought. Maybe you can broach it along the lines of 'you would prefer something a little more personal and something that you could keep abdywould not be obsolete in a couple if years.' Return it and get a nice piece of jewellery

Missy17 Mon 26-Dec-16 15:29:35

My DH bought me a mac for my 30th a few months ago - only cos I told him too.
He didn't buy me a Christmas present.
He put thought into it so he's not that bad.

IhatchedaSnorlax Mon 26-Dec-16 20:12:21

Return it & buy yourself something you want - no drama required.

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