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naranciata Mon 26-Dec-16 11:50:48

At FIL's house. Yesterday I singlehandedly cooked a 3 course Christmas dinner for 11 people then went to bed about 9:30 because 25w pregnant and knackered. Woke up this morning and opened the fridge and you would not know it was Christmas yesterday. Every single leftover item has been portioned up and frozen and added to the "freezer spreadsheet" pinned to the noticeboard in the kitchen.

I was thinking along the lines of bubbles and squeak with fried eggs and cold meat for lunch, turkey sandwiches for snacks, big pan of veg soup for the next few days' food. Basically - no 'proper' cooking but lots of nice food.

I asked FIL if he'd frozen everything (as opposed to putting in garage fridge etc) and he thanked me for cooking and said he'd barely have to cook for himself over the next few days because of everything he was left with. In the same breath, he asked if I wanted some mince defrosting to make a chilli tonight.

AIBU to feel like it's not really up to him to freeze all the Christmas leftovers to be eaten when we've all left? Him and I paid for the food 50:50.

QueenOfTheFuckingWorld Mon 26-Dec-16 11:57:36

If you paid 50 50 then I'd be getting food out of the freezer and using it as you wanted.
MIL has form for this. Froze all the leftovers from a BBQ all the family had contributed to 'for later'. She left SIL very short on food for a buffet at hers the next day as everyone naturally assumed they'd bring the leftovers.

WonderWombat Mon 26-Dec-16 11:58:26

I think you should basically say that's what you had in mind - presumably you were planning to take the cold meat etc home - and ask for half the leftovers.

The only problem would be if you live a long way away and the stuff defrosts and has to be refrozen. (If you don't have a freezer pack for transporting).

Alternatively he pays more than 50%, if there were huge quantities of leftovers and he's snaffling them all for his exclusive use.

DesignedForLife Mon 26-Dec-16 11:58:54

That's a bit cheeky, maybe he should be in he one cooking chilli tonight? Is he infirm and unable to do much cooking?

Orangesox Mon 26-Dec-16 11:59:10

Personally I'd tell him to make his own bloody chilli.

Such strange, selfish behaviour. Especially as you'd paid 50:50 for the food, YANBU at all!

OhStuffingBalls Mon 26-Dec-16 12:00:36

Thats very odd behaviour.

In fact, I'm spluttering with laughter at some of the weird Christmas food related behaviour on Mumsnet today grin.

What is wrong with people? Leftovers are as integral to Christmas as the main meal, surely?

Get some of the stuff out of the freezer and have a feast!

RaspberryOverloadsOnMincePies Mon 26-Dec-16 12:03:51

Oh, I'd certainly ensure I had 50% of the leftovers after this kind of behaviour. For me, that's the whole point of cooking plenty on Xmas day itself. I often make quick meals out of leftovers that mean I'm not spending too much of my time off slaving over a stove.

dudsville Mon 26-Dec-16 12:04:49

Say this to HIM. GET the food out and defrosted. It doesn't have to be an ordeal.

TrustySnail Mon 26-Dec-16 12:06:42

"freezer spreadsheet" shock

Is this a thing people commonly have?

Admirably well-organised!

mygorgeousmilo Mon 26-Dec-16 12:08:33

ohstuffing also chuckling about other people's weird Christmas food dramas.... you all have my sympathies fconfused even when we all leaned back in our seats yesterday, everyone was unanimous with "leftovers are going to be amazing!"

We've had panettone and clotted cream for breakfast! Will have a massive leftover feast plus pickles and cheeses as soon as we all agree we want it. There will be talk of who wants what throughout the day. No way is anyone expected to start cooking from scratch today, or expected to be hungry at any stage.

ProfYaffle Mon 26-Dec-16 12:09:08

I have a freezer spreadsheet!

In my defence though, I have 2 chest freezers and an allotment. Upon setting up the spreadsheet I discovered 16 bags of home grown french beans I'd previously been unaware of blush

WhereYouLeftIt Mon 26-Dec-16 12:09:11

I'd be taking half the leftovers with me, even if they would defrost en route and I'd have to bin them. The pleasure of knowing I'd screwed over his spreadsheet would be enormous ...

Hellmouth Mon 26-Dec-16 12:11:47

but everyone knows Christmas leftovers are for boxing day, and any other days afterwards until it's all run out . . :D he may have paid 50:50, but you did all the cooking so I think you should take it all!

expatinscotland Mon 26-Dec-16 12:12:10

FFS! So you go over there and pay 50/50 to skivvy for the lot of them in the kitchen? WHY do people put up with rude behaviour like this or play 1950s wifey because tehy're women?

Get the lefotvers out, defrost them and serve them up! He balks and you say, 'Well, we paid for this food, too.'

And tbh, stop going there, paying 50% (who the FUCK does that to family?) and cooking and skivvying for all of them. Your husband sat on his duff whilst his pregnant wife was in there working her arse off? What a dick. You can see where he got it from.

expatinscotland Mon 26-Dec-16 12:13:48

FFS! So you go over there and pay 50/50 to skivvy for the lot of them in the kitchen? WHY do people put up with rude behaviour like this or play 1950s wifey because tehy're women?

Get the lefotvers out, defrost them and serve them up! He balks and you say, 'Well, we paid for this food, too.'

And tbh, stop going there, paying 50% (who the FUCK does that to family?) and cooking and skivvying for all of them. Your husband sat on his duff whilst his pregnant wife was in there working her arse off? What a dick. You can see where he got it from.

TrustySnail Mon 26-Dec-16 12:14:11

In my defence though

Nothing to defend, I think it's a good idea - it would solve the common problem of identifying the obscure thing in a plastic bag at the back of the shelf that seems to have been there for about two years.

smellyboot Mon 26-Dec-16 12:17:20

left over are part of the xmas ritual surely????

ThumbWitchesAbroad Mon 26-Dec-16 12:17:32

Bloody hell, he's got a cheek!!

I'm at my Dad's house - I bought all the Christmas food, and cooked it all - and I fully anticipate using the turkey up in similar fashion to you over the next few days. I absolutely would lose my temper with anyone who thought they could just hoard all the leftovers for themselves, AND expect me to cook fresh food again!

YANBU, he's being very selfish and rude. Just take out what you need and defrost it as necessary - you've bloody paid for it!

Allalonenow Mon 26-Dec-16 12:18:06

I think it's time you sat down with a cup of tea, put your feet up and don't move until it's time to go home!
You cooked yesterday, it's someone else's turn to cook today.

ClarissaDarling Mon 26-Dec-16 12:18:31

You say 'thank you FIL, yes such a good idea, that'll make it so much easier at home for meals'- and grab a shopping bag and load half the stuff into it. 'Will return the Tupperware when next see you'!

Rattusn Mon 26-Dec-16 12:18:36

I also fail to see what you gain from this arrangement. You are going to someone else's house, still paying for more food than your family are eating, and cooking. Then you don't even get the leftovers!

Get some leftovers out of the fridge, and stay at home next year!

BIgBagofJelly Mon 26-Dec-16 12:18:49

I'd defrost it and make a christmas sandwich and and tell him he's welcome to make a chilli if he'd like one (unless he's infirm and can't cooker himself).

ClashCityRocker Mon 26-Dec-16 12:20:18

Definitely odd behaviour.

I've just had a glorious lunch of cold turkey with cranberry and bread sauce.

user1471545174 Mon 26-Dec-16 12:21:25

They are BU! I only cook Christmas for the Boxing Day leftovers.

Allalonenow Mon 26-Dec-16 12:21:33

YY to taking half the frozen left overs home with you.

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