My stepdaughter is currently abroad with the man she's going to marry, in the country his family originally came from.
So we arranged to Skype on Christmas day. It was 10pm their time and they had returned to the flat where they were staying after a day out with family friends.
We'd assumed that she'd be relaxed and enjoying a well-derserved break with her fiancé. Instead y stepdaughter seemed very fraught about wedding plans. They'll marry in August, but had planned to get bridesmaids dresses in the country where they are staying. However there was some hitch - which she described at length. After two nights of worrying and several trips to the relevant shop, she has abandoned this plan.
Both my husband and I were also aware that her fiancé at no point came over to the balcony where she was phoning to wish us Happy Xmas. She just said 'Oh X is around somewhere. I don't know where he's gone.'
I realised that in the last year X has visited us precisely once, though my husband has visited them a good number of times. X does have a demanding job, but doesn't seem to want to engage with us or get to know us at all. Whereas my stepdaughter is expected to be in attendance at every single event that concerns his family.
His parents also seem entirely unaware of anything that goes on in my stepdaughter's family. (For example they were completely unaware that my stepdaughter's mum had had a major heart attack, even though my stepdaughter was naturally hugely worried about this - and had made visits, phonecalls etc.)
Would you feel worried about what the future might hold for this couple?
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Christmas Skype and Absent Fiancé
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WonderWombat · 26/12/2016 10:21
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