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AIBU?

AIBU for disliking my sly inlaws?

33 replies

omomom · 25/12/2016 22:51

To cut long-story short, because of things in the past I have decided to stay cordial,but not close to the in-laws. They have done all sorts, from making me work all day in their house when we were staying with them & FIL house to coming to my house to have a go at me for something MIL told him about, which wasn't true.
They came around and sort of apologised but I drew a line and maintained a distance. Fast forward few months MIL (who is very sly) has been trying to invite us for lunch, tea, dinner and all sorts. I have very politely refused.
On Christmas Eve ,they came under the pretext of visiting and slowly started to ask if we could have food together for Christmas. I politely refused as they don't celebrate Christmas and I didn't want go.
My husband (who has exactly same grievances as me) some how always ends up on their side by saying " he believes in giving people chance"

They came in the afternoon had food they had bought. Had a laugh with my husband and amongst them selves. While I sat there watching all this unfold. My husband thinks it's their way of apologising. We had a massive row.
I am just numb and speechless . Please tell me AIBU?

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LynetteScavo · 25/12/2016 22:55

I'm not sure what they've done wrong Confused

dementedpixie · 25/12/2016 22:56

I don't think you have given enough info to judge if they have been sly or unreasonable. What did they do wrong today?

PaulAnkaTheDog · 25/12/2016 22:57

I don't think the in laws are the issue, not your husband...

PaulAnkaTheDog · 25/12/2016 22:57

*nor

DontTouchTheMoustache · 25/12/2016 22:58

What? Your op reads that your in laws want to spend time with your Dh and for some reason this makes them "sly"

Rockpebblestone · 25/12/2016 23:00

Like previous posters, I don't get what they've done either.

Invite you over for meals, come over to your's with food and make your husband laugh. Is this not allowed?

I think either you've missed out a vital piece of information here or yes, you are being (very) unreasonable.

FriskyFrog · 25/12/2016 23:03

Sorry, but I'm not getting this either. They sound like they are trying to build bridges. You sound like hard work. What did they do?

MakaiTenjyo · 25/12/2016 23:20

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EZA15 · 25/12/2016 23:38

What am I missing in this thread?!Hmm

JenLindleyShitMom · 25/12/2016 23:42

Sounds like they came and had a lovely time and you sat with a cats arse on all day.

kawla · 25/12/2016 23:42

All I can say is have another glass and go to sleep.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 25/12/2016 23:47

Jen. Yeah, that's my interpretation.

paulapantsdown · 25/12/2016 23:48

So they have apologised for pat mistakes and tried to make peace with you by inviting you to meals etc. They then came over and were friendly and nice, and you refused to talk to them and had a massive row with your husband because he wanted to speak with his parents and give them another chance?

Blimey you sound like a right old grump!

Oldbutstillgotit · 25/12/2016 23:48

What am I missing here ??

OvariesForgotHerPassword · 25/12/2016 23:50

What cunts they are.

Sorry I don't get it either

KeptOnRaining · 25/12/2016 23:53

They don't celebrate Christmas - the OP does.

Yesterday they asked if they could come Christmas Day, she said NO. They arrived with food, ruining HER Christmas Day. A day SHE celebrates, that they don't, in HER house.

JenLindleyShitMom · 25/12/2016 23:59

slowly started to ask if we could have food together for Christmas.

Actually it sounds like they were offering an olive branch by celebrating Xmas with OP despite them not celebrating it.

FriskyFrog · 26/12/2016 00:00

On Christmas Eve ,they came under the pretext of visiting and slowly started to ask if we could have food together for Christmas. I politely refused as they don't celebrate Christmas and I didn't want go.

Sounds like the ILs were asking OP to go to theirs Kept, for Christmas food, the event they do not .... ummm..... celebrate. Perhaps MIL was planning a vegetable curry?

FriskyFrog · 26/12/2016 00:06

They came in the afternoon had food they had bought.

Ahhh.... They also came over today, bringing food.

What did they bring? What happened to your turkey/ goose/ nutroast?

LapsedPacifist · 26/12/2016 00:25

Your poor husband. Sad

HennaFlare · 26/12/2016 00:26

In-laws invited op for Christmas. She declined, so they turned up at her house with the meal uninvited! In what universe is that normal??

PerspicaciaTick · 26/12/2016 00:26

Please tell me AIBU?

OK - YABU. HTH.

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JenLindleyShitMom · 26/12/2016 00:28

so they turned up at her house with the meal uninvited! In what universe is that normal??


Nah, her husband told them to come. She just didn't say it.

My husband (who has exactly same grievances as me) some how always ends up on their side by saying " he believes in giving people chance"

littlefrenchonion · 26/12/2016 00:32

If they turned up, after you had politely declined for whatever reason, YANBU! My in-laws have done this exact thing too as they disagreed my reason for not wanting visitors that day was a valid one. I was enraged and it was the most uncomfortable meal I've ever eaten. I feel your pain, OP!

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 26/12/2016 00:34

Sorry not getting what they have done wrong.

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