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AIBU for disliking my sly inlaws?

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omomom Sun 25-Dec-16 22:51:58

To cut long-story short, because of things in the past I have decided to stay cordial,but not close to the in-laws. They have done all sorts, from making me work all day in their house when we were staying with them & FIL house to coming to my house to have a go at me for something MIL told him about, which wasn't true.
They came around and sort of apologised but I drew a line and maintained a distance. Fast forward few months MIL (who is very sly) has been trying to invite us for lunch, tea, dinner and all sorts. I have very politely refused.
On Christmas Eve ,they came under the pretext of visiting and slowly started to ask if we could have food together for Christmas. I politely refused as they don't celebrate Christmas and I didn't want go.
My husband (who has exactly same grievances as me) some how always ends up on their side by saying " he believes in giving people chance"

They came in the afternoon had food they had bought. Had a laugh with my husband and amongst them selves. While I sat there watching all this unfold. My husband thinks it's their way of apologising. We had a massive row.
I am just numb and speechless . Please tell me AIBU?

LynetteScavo Sun 25-Dec-16 22:55:22

I'm not sure what they've done wrong confused

dementedpixie Sun 25-Dec-16 22:56:11

I don't think you have given enough info to judge if they have been sly or unreasonable. What did they do wrong today?

PaulAnkaTheDog Sun 25-Dec-16 22:57:36

I don't think the in laws are the issue, not your husband...

PaulAnkaTheDog Sun 25-Dec-16 22:57:49

*nor

DontTouchTheMoustache Sun 25-Dec-16 22:58:48

What? Your op reads that your in laws want to spend time with your Dh and for some reason this makes them "sly"

Rockpebblestone Sun 25-Dec-16 23:00:28

Like previous posters, I don't get what they've done either.

Invite you over for meals, come over to your's with food and make your husband laugh. Is this not allowed?

I think either you've missed out a vital piece of information here or yes, you are being (very) unreasonable.

FriskyFrog Sun 25-Dec-16 23:03:28

Sorry, but I'm not getting this either. They sound like they are trying to build bridges. You sound like hard work. What did they do?

MakaiTenjyo Sun 25-Dec-16 23:20:49

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EZA15 Sun 25-Dec-16 23:38:56

What am I missing in this thread?!hmm

JenLindleyShitMom Sun 25-Dec-16 23:42:56

Sounds like they came and had a lovely time and you sat with a cats arse on all day.

kawla Sun 25-Dec-16 23:42:57

All I can say is have another glass and go to sleep.

PaulAnkaTheDog Sun 25-Dec-16 23:47:13

Jen. Yeah, that's my interpretation.

paulapantsdown Sun 25-Dec-16 23:48:06

So they have apologised for pat mistakes and tried to make peace with you by inviting you to meals etc. They then came over and were friendly and nice, and you refused to talk to them and had a massive row with your husband because he wanted to speak with his parents and give them another chance?

Blimey you sound like a right old grump!

Oldbutstillgotit Sun 25-Dec-16 23:48:44

What am I missing here ??

OvariesForgotHerPassword Sun 25-Dec-16 23:50:19

What cunts they are.

Sorry I don't get it either

KeptOnRaining Sun 25-Dec-16 23:53:42

They don't celebrate Christmas - the OP does.

Yesterday they asked if they could come Christmas Day, she said NO. They arrived with food, ruining HER Christmas Day. A day SHE celebrates, that they don't, in HER house.

JenLindleyShitMom Sun 25-Dec-16 23:59:51

slowly started to ask if we could have food together for Christmas.

Actually it sounds like they were offering an olive branch by celebrating Xmas with OP despite them not celebrating it.

FriskyFrog Mon 26-Dec-16 00:00:18

On Christmas Eve ,they came under the pretext of visiting and slowly started to ask if we could have food together for Christmas. I politely refused as they don't celebrate Christmas and I didn't want go.

Sounds like the ILs were asking OP to go to theirs Kept, for Christmas food, the event they do not .... ummm..... celebrate. Perhaps MIL was planning a vegetable curry? <baffled>

FriskyFrog Mon 26-Dec-16 00:06:11

They came in the afternoon had food they had bought.

Ahhh.... They also came over today, bringing food. <marginally less baffled>

What did they bring? What happened to your turkey/ goose/ nutroast?

LapsedPacifist Mon 26-Dec-16 00:25:44

Your poor husband. sad

HennaFlare Mon 26-Dec-16 00:26:20

In-laws invited op for Christmas. She declined, so they turned up at her house with the meal uninvited! In what universe is that normal??

PerspicaciaTick Mon 26-Dec-16 00:26:23

Please tell me AIBU?

OK - YABU. HTH.

JenLindleyShitMom Mon 26-Dec-16 00:28:27

so they turned up at her house with the meal uninvited! In what universe is that normal??

Nah, her husband told them to come. She just didn't say it.

My husband (who has exactly same grievances as me) some how always ends up on their side by saying " he believes in giving people chance"

littlefrenchonion Mon 26-Dec-16 00:32:06

If they turned up, after you had politely declined for whatever reason, YANBU! My in-laws have done this exact thing too as they disagreed my reason for not wanting visitors that day was a valid one. I was enraged and it was the most uncomfortable meal I've ever eaten. I feel your pain, OP!

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