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OH fucked off just before dinner was ready

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Natsku Sun 25-Dec-16 20:24:26

He just disappeared without saying where he was going or anything and his phone was off. Me and DD were really worried, DD was scared that something had happened to him. We ate dinner just the two of us while I tried to get in contact with his friends, eventually got one to go and look for him. He found him at the house of a complete deadbeat, who he doesn't like so I have no idea why he was there.

He's on his way home and I am sure I am not being unreasonable to be absolutely fuming. He has barely been around all day, on Christmas fucking Day, and then does this right at dinner time, when I've spent days preparing this meal. I don't know what to say to him when he gets here, don't have the words for how upset I am.

SecretTryer Sun 25-Dec-16 20:25:06

Buying drugs?

HermioneJeanGranger Sun 25-Dec-16 20:25:47


Natsku Sun 25-Dec-16 20:26:06

I don't think so but now I'm not sure what to think.

CalmItKermitt Sun 25-Dec-16 20:26:20


AnyFucker Sun 25-Dec-16 20:26:34

You don't know what to say to him ? confused

pipsqueak25 Sun 25-Dec-16 20:27:22

not sure i'd want to speak to him tbh, but he does owe you an apology all the same, does he often walk out like this ?

Kalopsia77 Sun 25-Dec-16 20:29:13

I would know what to say to him. It would start with "what the fuck?!"

Natsku Sun 25-Dec-16 20:30:27

He was saying on his friends phone how sorry he is but didn't seem to understand what the issue was. I'm thinking now that he sounded a bit like he'd taken too much of his adhd meds. Oh fuck, this is such LTB. territory but I don't want to leave him because he's not usually like this but has been before so this is not a good sign.

ConvincingLiar Sun 25-Dec-16 20:31:43

You might not want to LTB but do you want to be treated like shit?

DoosyFartlek Sun 25-Dec-16 20:32:22


Natsku Sun 25-Dec-16 20:32:31

No he doesn't usually do this pipsqueak but about a year ago after being newly diagnosed with adhd he took too much of his medicine and behaved oddly like this.

pipsqueak25 Sun 25-Dec-16 20:32:51

i wouldn't waste anymore time with this guy tbh.

IhatchedaSnorlax Sun 25-Dec-16 20:33:31

That's shit Nats, no advice as I'd have no clue what I'd do in your position other then ask him WTF was going on. Sorry!

Natsku Sun 25-Dec-16 20:33:47

Definitely don't want to be treated like shit. I hear the car now, he's back.

Gallavich Sun 25-Dec-16 20:34:14

Well he's on something
But whether he was high before he did such a weird thing or he did the weird thing to get high is the question
It's vile behaviour. Utterly selfish.

DoosyFartlek Sun 25-Dec-16 20:35:28


hibouhibou Sun 25-Dec-16 20:37:54


OPs other half was at a guys house. Why would you suggest this

Kalopsia77 Sun 25-Dec-16 20:38:22

Hope it goes ok, what an awful day for you and your daughter

PaperdollCartoon Sun 25-Dec-16 20:39:05

I've previously been on prescription psychotropics and yes you can take too much by accident and act unusually.

But he took himself voluntarily to the house of someone who by the sound of it isn't a usual friend, odd behaviour indeed. Totally not acceptable any day, let alone Christmas.

If you possibly can I'd try to avoid confronting him until tomorrow in case he has taken too many drugs, he may not be in himself enough to properly engage with you. But if he can't give any reasonable explanation tomorrow (indeed it doesn't sound like there could be one) I would seriously consider whether this is someone you can trust and rely on.

Good luck flowers

sooperdooper Sun 25-Dec-16 20:42:56

Prick, I'd just tell him to fuck off to wherever he'd spent the rest of his Christmas Day and not bother me anymore

PeteSwotatoes Sun 25-Dec-16 20:43:07

Sounds like cocaine.

Starlight2345 Sun 25-Dec-16 20:47:17

my initial thought drugs...My ex did this the one and only year he spent with our DS...

You need to demand an explanation then deal with what he says..

MoodyBox Sun 25-Dec-16 20:50:04

That is seriously odd behaviour. If it were my dp I'm not sure I'd even be pissed off as such, more just worried about his state of mind.

Does he, to your knowledge, use any drugs other than his meds?

Is this 'deadbeat' a drug user/dealer?

gunting Sun 25-Dec-16 20:51:44

This whole situation just seems totally bizarre. Hope you get to the bottom of it..

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