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Do you have anyone else there? If yes go out and go to the pub , leave the miserable sod to it

What the hell do you feel unreasonable about?

So, which one of your friends are you taking to Dublin with you? He can keep his PS4 company.

He's a selfish twat it isn't you being demanding or entitled.

No there's nobody else. Expecting all in laws round at 2pm and am currently 8 weeks pregnant so the pub is out of the question!

I'm not particularly materialistic and I enjoy giving presents and seeing people's reactions when they receive them. I also love family time and seeing friends and family over the Christmas period which we haven't managed to do for one reason or another. None of my family are coming today because of various reasons and I just feel a bit lonely and a bit forgotten now. And just a bit sad.

I dunno YANBU, I get sometimes people have issues getting presents but to then go out get a PS4 shows he could have got you something. I also think Christmas is more about family time he HIBU ignoring you

WTF is this thing about people buying THEMSELVES a present. He sounds like a twat to me, who doesn't even think that your worth an Xmas pressie. Seriously Id leave someone for this.

You're a better woman than me. I'd have thrown him and his bloody PS out by now. And you're pregnant!!
Fucker.

Tight fucker. Speaks volumes about him tbh. Can you treat yourself to something nice? Has he explained himself?

I'd be taking my friend or sister to Dublin and not the Scrooge.

(not an issue in itself)

hrfvenia, have you identified the underlying issue?

Why hasn't he bought you a present??



Is there a possibility he's got you a new car and is waiting for you to go into the garage to take the sprouts out of the freezer?

<clutches>

My DH found an expensive jewellery set in his bedside cabinet draw that I bought for myself two years ago when I sold the flat I bought before we even met. He has seen me wear it and even done it up for me. This morning he handed it to me wrapped up as it was in his sock drawer (we moved in May must have got stuffed into his drawer then) he thought he had bought it
I am in the bedroom seething. It's the lack of thought and effort.

KC225, that is hysterically bad.

Lovelearning no my issue is that he deem it acceptable to spend a considerable amount of money on a present for himself that will then take him away from family time with the rest of us at some point, with no consideration for how it might make me feel.

VeryRestimg unfortunately no, unless of course he has also bought me a garage.

KC225 I think that may be worse than not getting anything!

I don't think its a problem in itself that he didn't get you a present, but I'd take someone else away to Dublin rather than him. Was the trip to Dublin really a present for him, or was it just that you wanted to go and he gets to come along? I'm not sure that I'd count a trip away that my OH wanted to go on as a present for me.

Have you said alleviation him? What did he say?

All this!

Yes agreed, worse than not getting anything. I even had to remind him of us having a night away without th kids and him doing the clapse before we went for dinner. His reply, was well why was it on my drawer then?

Return the PS4.

You say his parents and/or siblings are coming over?

Oh good. Then you can shame the fucker when they ask you what he bought you.
"Oh, I got nothing. He got himself a PS4 though".

They are his family. I'd be certain that his twatty behaviour will come as no surprise to him. But they can and should make him feel very bad for being such a selfish git. If it was my son/brother, I'd tear strips off him for his selfishness.

I can't get my head round how this has resulted in you feeling "sad" rather than him feeling "properly spoken to".

I know you're pregnant. I know that fucks things up with calling it a day when you realise your boyfriend doesn't care about you.
You have to get to the bottom of this.

Is there any reason why it is OK? (if you had both agreed no presents - my fiancé's late wife used to say that, then drop hints at what she wanted! But it was good natured between them and became an in joke)

I agree that a weekend away might be seen as something you wanted for you.

What have you actually said to him?

Had you discussed beforehand if you would be buying presents? When DH & I have set spending limits in the past we've agreed it in advance so there's no confusion or disappointment.
Did you tell him you were upset?

no consideration for how it might make me feel

hrfvenia, is your husband usually considerate of your feelings?

That's really shitty. Lots of couples don't do presents and that's fine but this is horribly one sided.

It's been asked before but why did he not buy you a Christmas gift?

Where did he get the PlayStation from, everywheres shut

Sometimes I think Christmas highlights just how shitty a relationship is and makes it difficult to ignore anymore.

Is the whole thing worth saving?