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To think Christmas Eve is not the time to admit you cheated?!

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indigox Sun 25-Dec-16 03:36:00

Probably outing but who cares.

Ex left a few months ago, without a reason, just left by text and was barely heard from again, other than messages to suggest he'd come back, we'd get back together etc.. A few days ago I get wind he cheated, messaged him to ask if that was the reason and got no reply... until this evening when he decides to tell me he did in fact cheat and is with this woman now.

I feel like my heart has been ripped out, and this is only a matter of weeks after I finally got out of the massive deep hole of depression that him leaving left me in. Now I'm reliving it ALL OVER again, because once wasn't enough?!

Now I can't sleep, I feel sick and my DS will be up in a few hours happy that's it's Christmas.

Rainbowqueeen Sun 25-Dec-16 03:39:14

flowers. Block him now, have a cup of sweet tea. What a nasty man. You are well rid

Focus on enjoying xmas with your DS

DoosyFartlek Sun 25-Dec-16 03:43:13

I'm all annoyed and can't sleep. Turing to concentrate on deep breathing. Really wish it wasn't xmas tomorrow but going to make the most of it however knackered

DoosyFartlek Sun 25-Dec-16 03:44:09

Thank goodness he's gone! Who needs a cheat and a liar?

Insanityprofanity Sun 25-Dec-16 03:46:41

Its the best present from him... tonadmit hes a total dickweed and not worthy of you.

You deserve better. Your well rid. Have a happy christmas knowing this lame bit of dirt is not there to ruin it. You know not to take him back.dont give him any more of your thoughts.

Have a fab day with your DS. Drink tea or plenty of wine and spwnd the day having fun. fsmile

Gracey1231 Sun 25-Dec-16 03:46:46

Take this as your closure, you're well shot of the horrible pig

You don't want him back let this woman live paranoid that one day he'll do the exact same thing to her. If they'll cheat with you they'll cheat on you.

Get all your emotions out in one go don't bottle anything up, then have a brew, and embrace your little boys happy face all excited for today!

Stay strong babe, you don't want this arsehole, his loss, definitely not yours

Merry Xmas flowers

indigox Sun 25-Dec-16 03:56:05

I'm glad he's gone, I'm glad I've finally got the closure I was needing for the last few months so I'm trying to look at the positives, but it just so shit having to not only relive the fact the relationship is over when I was very much in love with him and finally starting to see the light in a very dark tunnel, but the reason being so disgusting, moral-less and selfish.

Graphista Sun 25-Dec-16 04:07:03

Sorry you don't deserve this, dirty bastard! My ex did similar but...several YEARS after split and a couple days earlier. No idea what possessed him!

You WILL get through this and what a pp said echoing the 'once a cheat always a cheat' cliche? It's a cliche for a reason. My exs ow/now wife has to live a paranoid life as he's constantly cheated on her too - shame hmm. She's got him on a VERY short leash doesn't stop him.

You're well rid. Have a lovely day with your boy tomorrow.

TheCatsMother99 Sun 25-Dec-16 07:00:33

OP, it's massively shit timing that you've found out, or had it confirmed. Try to see this as a way to draw a line under it and him & look forward to a fresh start in 2017.

The silly woman is welcome to him.

MudCity Sun 25-Dec-16 07:37:58

Oh, OP...it's horrible and sickening...thank goodness he has GONE.

Please remember that however raw it feels now, in six months it will feel different.

Today marks a new start for you and your DS. Your first Christmas free of a man who would have held you back. You will get through this and be all the better for it.

user1471545174 Sun 25-Dec-16 08:04:10

Poor you, having to relive it now of all times. I have never known of a single instance of a man leaving to be alone (unless thrown out). flowers
To a better New Year OP.

MTWTFSS Sun 25-Dec-16 08:39:30

Think of Brad Pitt. Once a cheater, always a cheater! Bet your ex will cheat on the new woman too! You are so very much better off without him!

dinor Sun 25-Dec-16 08:57:25

Start a fresh and happy start to 2017. You now have closure and know he's a piece of shit. It's hard but you'll get through it and look back and be happier. flowers

indigox Sun 25-Dec-16 12:59:11

I feel physically sick, I really didn't have the strength to go through this again, today of all days.

Newbrummie Sun 25-Dec-16 13:05:36

It's just a day, no matter when you got this news it would have been just as bad I promise. I found out out 4th Feb, it's ittetly ingrained in my mind and I was so upset I accidentally let the dog out and she ran straight in front of a car, doa, horrific day.
You never forget it whenever it is/was. Just be glad he's gone.

trickycat Sun 25-Dec-16 13:11:18

I'm so sorry. He is a scumbag. Little consolation but he has at least given you the truth. I didn't get the truth, which feels like a special kind of hell.
Be angry, be furious but remember this time next year everything will be different.
You are mighty and worth so much more than the pair of them. flowers

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