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AIBU to be upset at husband over this?

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tawny123 Sat 24-Dec-16 21:30:51

My husband has just gone to bed but has not yet wrapped up a single Christmas present for me. He's bought them just not wrapped them or put under tree. All in carrier bags in his study still. He has however managed to fit in an eight mile run this morning whilst I did the cooking and looked after 3 year old. Am I being unreasonable to be irritated by this?

RainbowJack Sat 24-Dec-16 21:31:45

Maybe he'll get up early and do it?

OohhThatsMe Sat 24-Dec-16 21:32:23

How come he's gone to bed so early? Will he wrap them in the morning?

Haggisfish Sat 24-Dec-16 21:33:08

It depends. Is he planning on getting up early to wrap them tomorrow? Is he usually crap? I wouldn't mind but dh is generally fab.

Stormwhale Sat 24-Dec-16 21:33:18

Yanbu. Dp has just wrapped mine. If he hadn't bothered I would be upset.

tawny123 Sat 24-Dec-16 21:33:43

Perhaps but with a three year old who'll be up at the crack of dawn good luck to him fitting that in

HarryPottersMagicWand Sat 24-Dec-16 21:34:58

YANBU. DH is doing mine now, all my family, his and the DCs were done last week. Doing it on the morning smacks of 'I've left it to the last minute as it isnt that important to me'. Why has he gone to bed so early?

JenniferYellowHat1980 Sat 24-Dec-16 21:35:38

YANBU. It irritates me theat DH doesn't think about it until the DCs are in bed then has to fanny about climbing into the attic to get more paper. Would be unimpressed if he didn't bother at all. Why did you end up on dinner duty? That should be a joint effort.

DonutParade Sat 24-Dec-16 21:40:54

YABU, mine from dh are unwrapped in a cupboard, if they get wrapped yay, if they don't, yay. It's so not important to me.

wherethefuckisthefuckingtuna Sat 24-Dec-16 21:43:50

This is exactly the sort of thing my husband would do. And it would piss me right off too.

People will tell you it doesn't matter and he'll do it in the morning. But it just seems so thoughtless and unkind to me.

YANBU.

tawny123 Sat 24-Dec-16 21:51:17

Thank you. Exactly how I feel about it

DearMrDilkington Sat 24-Dec-16 21:56:39

Think how much better it is for the environmentfsmile. Is it possible that's why he hasn't wrapped them?

I wouldn't be that upset but if it upsets you then it's upset you, but do remember he did buy you presents so he obviously cares.

DaffyJones Sat 24-Dec-16 21:57:10

Is he completely exhausted from this morning's run?

Bogeyface Sat 24-Dec-16 22:00:06

He fitted in a run because it was important enough to him to find time for........

I would be hurt and upset too and I would be having a word about it once Xmas was over.

BakeOffBiscuits Sat 24-Dec-16 22:02:08

Mine managed to wrap my present when I went to church earlier.

I know because he told me as soon as I got back in.

"I've wrapped all your presents (there's 3) and my mum and dads (2 more). It's not as easy as you think, it takes a lot of time" fhmm

My reply was "I know how long it takes, I've wrapped over 50 of the fuckers this week"

Do I have grounds to LTB?

Lemon12345 Sat 24-Dec-16 22:13:04

Biscuits, most definitely LTB!

But seriously different things are important to different people. If it's important to you then you need to let him know. No point spoiling Christmas over it, but if they aren't sorted once your opening presents in the morning then take a calm quiet minute to explain this to him.
I hate those who say be grateful that he's bought you presents in the first place, but I chose, ordered and wrapped my own this year and to top it off it's a kitchen appliance (which is apparently not acceptable)... Some would say LTB.
I would love a nice surprise but for me there are more important things. But it's not my feelings that are being hurt, it's yours. If it's important to you then you need to tell him. He's not a mind reader.

DameDeDoubtance Sat 24-Dec-16 22:15:21

Did he buy gifts for his family? Were they wrapped?

awayinamazda Sat 24-Dec-16 22:22:25

You could move his gifts out of the way, and say that, as he hasn't yet found time to wrap yours, u can save his until he's ready - that may help him get his arse into gear ;-D- perhaps u can both have them after DC is in bed?

EweAreHere Sat 24-Dec-16 22:26:36

YANBU at all

catwoman0815 Sat 24-Dec-16 22:28:15

sorry but YABU. You sound about 6 years old.

awayinamazda Sat 24-Dec-16 22:30:22

A slight diversion - ability to choose and give nice gifts seems unrelated to a blokes general niceness in my experience. The only partner I've had who bought really nice gifts (with thought as to what I'd want, not generic smellies or chocolate) was not very nice to me otherwise - abusive in retrospect.
My nice, kind partner just won't do cards at all, and once got me a £1 packet of chocolates with the price still on as my main pressie (awkwardly, I had a big box of the same brand, sitting on the table...).
I used to be a bit hurt, but now feel that general kindness and consideration go smoothly further than pressies :-).

Butterymuffin Sat 24-Dec-16 22:32:52

That's poor. When he says in the morning 'I haven't wrapped yours', hand him the paper, scissors and tape and say 'There you go! Take 3yo up with you and they can help while I get on with the dinner'. Then sit and have a Baileys in peace and quiet. Less likely to be repeated next year. Oh, and do NOT let him go for an 8 mile run in the morning.

ChocoChou Sat 24-Dec-16 22:51:04

Is it possible they're still in the carrier bags but gift wrapped by the actual shop?
My DH has no intention of wrapping my gift (or even trying to hide them) which is why I know I have
A pair of boots
Undies
Some form of jewellery.

All wrapped from the shops he bought it in. Not complaining though as last year he bought me naff all fsmile

bangingmyheadoffabrickwall Sat 24-Dec-16 23:15:10

At least you have presents!

For the past five years I have:
1. Thought about what to buy EVERYONE including her our children since birth.
2. Shopped and until this year paid for EVERYONES presents.
3. Wrapped everyone's presents (as well as bought the wrapping paper and cellotape)
4. His presents and then brought them downstairs.
5. Did the online shop, took delivery of it and put it away as well as shopped for last minute stuff.
6. Bought and wrote cards.
7. Went to every Christmas party/gathering with children (DH went to two cos it was his works do for kids and his friends party)
8. Advent calendars etc and every other shit at Christmas.

DH made the decision that 'we' weren't buying for each other years ago. Stupidly I did buy for him and every year he never seemed pleased. One year he made me take something back!
This year I listened and not bought him anything.
He has got a card from me and one from each of our children but I will be lucky to get that!
Oh and I am the one cooking and clearing away Christmas dinner.

January IS the month for divorces ...

Wenker Sat 24-Dec-16 23:17:22

Is he usually this disorganised?

Fwiw no you are not being unreasonable.

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