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AIBU to be very annoyed with my brother?!

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Supermagicsmile Sat 24-Dec-16 18:36:13

I am sorry to be posting this on Christmas Eve, I know it's it really in the spirit of Christmas but I'm so annoyed right now and don't know if I am being unreasonable or if I'm just hormonal and tired.

I've been busy all day prepping cleaning and food for tonight as well as tomorrow. Family coming over tonight for a meal and bringing my brother with them. (He is staying for Christmas.)

Told him in advance that he would need to bring whatever he would need for his stay with him as I didn't want to be driving him to pick it up at 11 o'clock at night after friends go.

He has just rung to say that he didn't get his things ready as he went to the cinema instead. hmm and after our guests go he will need a lift back to his flat to collect his items and presents etc and then be brought back here.

That means I can't drink anything with dinner and will be driving very late at night which I hate. It will be atleast an hour round trip plus however long he needs to 'get his stuff ready.' angry

I am fuming and have said I don't want to do it but have been told by my father that I am 'despicable' to say that I will not go and collect him
and my mum is crying saying I am ruining it for everyone. sad

Guess who their favourite child is so I am being made to feel like an awful person for not wanting to take him back.


ICanTuckMyBoobsInMyPockets Sat 24-Dec-16 18:37:52

Why can't your parents do it if they love him so much?

Candlestickchick Sat 24-Dec-16 18:38:00

No YANBU. why can't your parents drive and get him? Your brother sounds like a useless, selfish little prick to be honest, sorry.

OliviaBenson Sat 24-Dec-16 18:38:01

Yanbu at all. How thoughtless of him. You were right to say no, it's his problem.

Finola1step Sat 24-Dec-16 18:38:25

Tell.him to pay for a taxi there and back.

CathyEarnshawsGhost Sat 24-Dec-16 18:39:11

Tell them you've been on the sherry since lunchtime and he can get a taxi.

NotStoppedAllDay Sat 24-Dec-16 18:39:18


either they can do it or he can get a taxi

put yourself first

talulahbelle Sat 24-Dec-16 18:39:25

What an idiot. Stand your ground!
Tell your parents you've been drinking already so can't drive?

Notonthestairs Sat 24-Dec-16 18:40:48

YANBU. Cheeky bugger.

SiennaNealon Sat 24-Dec-16 18:41:26

Not your problem. He could get a taxi, public transport, drive himself or have your parents give him a lift. You were very generous with your offer, his plans have changed that should inconvenience you.

BlackeyedSusan Sat 24-Dec-16 18:42:08

you should be mad with your parents as well. lazy sod went to the cinema.

have a drink and refuse to pick him up.

do something different next year if they are all arses.

DailyFail1 Sat 24-Dec-16 18:42:13

Your brother needs to take care of himself here. Say no.

nutbrownhare15 Sat 24-Dec-16 18:42:19

YANBU. Sorry your brother and parents ABU.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude Sat 24-Dec-16 18:42:39

Neck a glass of wine now and tell them you can't drive.

Garyfetacheese Sat 24-Dec-16 18:43:01

Start drinking now so you can't do it. He'll have to sort himself out.

YouTheCat Sat 24-Dec-16 18:43:18

Why can't he drive? Or if he can't, why can't your parents drive him.

Tell them you don't care if you 'ruin' it.

Finola1step Sat 24-Dec-16 18:43:49

Pour that drink.

Bestthingever Sat 24-Dec-16 18:44:00

I take it your brother is the golden child in the family? My db is but even my dps would not take his side here. Why can't your dps give him a lift? Have a massive glass of wine 🍷 right now so nobody can force you to drive!

Japonicathehorseygirl Sat 24-Dec-16 18:44:07

It's not your responsibility. You reminded him, he didn't bother. No way would I drive him back especially if you are not comfortable with the dark/ lateness etc

GooseFriend Sat 24-Dec-16 18:44:55

Yanbu. A) he gets taxi b) your folks get him c) he gets public transport d) one of the friends he's with drops him off. Or he drives if he has a car.

He has loads of options

YouTheCat Sat 24-Dec-16 18:45:22

Definitely pour a large drink.

Whocansay Sat 24-Dec-16 18:45:34

Tell your parents to get him. Or he can get a taxi. Not your problem.

Cherrysoup Sat 24-Dec-16 18:45:37

Have a drink and tell him to get a taxi. If he knew and you told him to bring everything, then he's being a wanker, especially deciding to go to the cinema too.

IhatchedaSnorlax Sat 24-Dec-16 18:45:42

I agree with the others - stand your ground & don't drive him. He can either get a taxi or your parents drive him (or could he borrow your car & drive himself?).

He sounds very selfish - drink wine so that you can't be bullied into it!

Candlelight123 Sat 24-Dec-16 18:46:32

It's not your responsibility to sort this out. Like others have said, have a drink and then the answer is, sorry I can't I've been drinking.

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