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Would you be upset with a fake?

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GandolfBold Sat 24-Dec-16 13:57:30

DH visited a country well known for fakes recently. He brought me a fake item of something I have been wanting for months and saving hard for. He gave me the gift. It's a good copy but you can tell it's a copy, and proceeded to tell me how cheap he got it for.

I am probably being ungrateful, but i feel a bit gutted, that he somehow thinks that is all I am worth if that makes sense.

APlaceOnTheCouch Sat 24-Dec-16 14:04:15

I think you're either someone who likes fakes or you're not. If he's the former then he probably doesn't see it as insulting.
But, personally I don't see the point of fakes - surely part of the appeal of a piece is how well it is made, and the detail of the design. And, I find it a bit odd that he bought you a fake if he knew you were saving for an original.

AndShesGone Sat 24-Dec-16 14:05:00

If it's cheap chuck it out and get the real thing. Fakes fund trafficking and terrorism, I wouldn't keep it.

BlurryFace Sat 24-Dec-16 14:05:48

I would be a bit upset by receiving a fake, not because "that's all I'm worth", but because the manufacturers don't hold themselves to the same quality or even safety standards that proper companies do. I would rather have a genuine high street branded item than a passable fake designer item made out of god knows what.

user1479655572 Sat 24-Dec-16 14:08:29

I would be baffled if I was saving for the original but I wouldn't think that was all I was 'worth' because my worth is not based on how much someone spends on me for a material good, and neither is yours OP ! I think you are massively overthinking this. Unless he is a super showy materialistic person who values designer label etc (which is fine but none of the men in my life are really) then he probably just thought he was doing you a favour! Just roll your eyes at him, keep saving and treat yourself to the original when you can afford it! And next year point him in the right direction of something you actually want!

Cheesymonster Sat 24-Dec-16 14:09:17

I think I'd be inclined to say thank you, leave it in the back of your closet and continue to save for a real one.

AmeliaJack Sat 24-Dec-16 14:11:40

I do understand why you are annoyed. He probably thought he was doing a nice thing, he probably can't understand why the real one costs so much money.

You are not valued by your possessions.

HecAteAllTheXmasPud Sat 24-Dec-16 14:11:50

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OliviaBensonOnAGoodDay Sat 24-Dec-16 14:14:33

I hate fake goods with a passion. SIL on the other hand loves them, and stocks up whenever she goes to Turkey on holiday. She says that her fake clothes fit well, look good, are cheap and that no one can tell they're not real. They make her happy.

She was boasting the other day about her Mulberry jeans. I didn't have the heart to tell her Mulberry don't make jeans.

lovelearning Sat 24-Dec-16 14:21:21

proceeded to tell me how cheap he got it for

I'd be upset that he mentioned money.

LunaLoveg00d Sat 24-Dec-16 14:22:11

I'm not a fan of a lot of the stuff which is typically faked so wouldn't be in the market for a full price or fake item. But yes, i'd be unhappy with a fake bought as a present.

LunaLoveg00d Sat 24-Dec-16 14:23:44

Also very cheap fake items are extremely poorly made and cannot be mistaken for the real thing. We get a lot of fake handbags, scarves and purses handed into the charity shop where I work and they are very easy to spot - poor quality stitching, uneven colour, wonky zips.

9GreenBottles Sat 24-Dec-16 14:26:10

If my partner knowingly bought me a fake, I would be honest and say I appreciated the gesture but would prefer the real thing. I wouldn't think he didn't think that I wasn't worth more but that he had made an effort to get me what he knew I wanted.

NavyandWhite Sat 24-Dec-16 14:27:02

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Motherwithflaws Sat 24-Dec-16 14:29:09

I hate fakes and won't wear them.

Motherwithflaws Sat 24-Dec-16 14:29:28

Sorry yanbu

LittleBearPad Sat 24-Dec-16 14:31:45

Yanbu. Fakes fund crime, drugs, all sorts of horribleness.

A1Sharon Sat 24-Dec-16 14:33:15

As others have said this type of fake is usually the product of a sweat shop. For that reason alone I wouldn't accept it, but DH would know that I wouldn't like that as a gift anyway.

sarahnova69 Sat 24-Dec-16 14:35:55

I mean, there's no reason that a bag from xname is worth thousands whereas an equally nice bag from z is going for a tenner other than people have been convinced certain names have value.

Er, there kind of is. One is made by skilled individuals out of quality materials, the other is made out of rubbish materials by a nine-year-old in a sweatshop who is chained to the table.

(I'm not exaggerating about the above. Designer fakes are made in appalling conditions and generally by organised crime.)

Sure, you pay a huge premium for brand and advertising, but a designer fake you get for a tenner doesn't remotely compare to the legit item.

WellKnackered Sat 24-Dec-16 14:55:33

I wouldn't like a fake. Id either the real thing or an alternative nice but not branded item.

Aeroflotgirl Sat 24-Dec-16 15:08:38

I woulden't like it, its not the real thing is it! I would rather buy a cheap bag from Next, than have a fake designer bag for example. I would still save up to buy the item that you want from a genuine retailer.

QuimReaper Sat 24-Dec-16 15:10:46

Does he know it's a fake, or does he just think it was a bargain?

I'd much rather have a nice bag I'd bought for its retail value than a fake. I've always thought fakes were a bit sad. There is an extremely well-known blogger who was exposed a while ago for having fake handbags and trying to pass them off as the real McCoy, I still cringe when I think about it.

ChristmasTreeKisses Sat 24-Dec-16 15:11:05

Did you ask your DH what made him buy this item? Maybe he just thought you would like to use the fake while you save for the real one.

QuimReaper Sat 24-Dec-16 15:11:54

Sorry, I should clarify - if I were to spend £50-£100 on a bag I'd rather have one worth that than a knock-of Mulberry, or whatever.

Obviously I'd rather rather have the Mulberry but I probably never will!

Allthewaves Sat 24-Dec-16 15:13:17

As long as it was given as a random gift and I was told it was a fake then no in wouldnt have an issue

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