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How to tell Ds Santa isn't real

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MsJamieFraser Fri 23-Dec-16 20:47:48

Ds1 is 10, he still believes, (I think, he thinks if he doesn't not beleive he will get one less present fgrin however I think deep down he knows)

This will be his last Xmas in Santa... how did you tell your DC?

Ds2 is 7 so we still want him to believe, and ds1 will be OK with this.

Sybys Fri 23-Dec-16 20:59:55

There was a recent thread where an OP wanted opinions as to whether she should watch Gremlins with her young DCs. I don't really remember the movie, but some posters said that it myth busts the santa story. Might be worth viewing!

gillybeanz Fri 23-Dec-16 21:03:53

I'd let him have this one last Christmas and tell him later in the year.
I did this with dd as I didn't want her going to her new school still believing not that it mattered as there were 8 year olds at her new school who still believed and older than her still believing.
I just thought the time was right.
I wouldn't watch Gremlins for this reason as the story tells how a teen when a child found out as her father died when he got stuck down the chimney, he broke his neck.

BeanAnTi Fri 23-Dec-16 21:04:44

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

m0therofdragons Fri 23-Dec-16 21:07:47

My df still swears santa is real and when we stay at my parents over Christmas they make dh and I little stockings. Not once have I been told santa isn't real but at 34 I have figured it out. Why is everyone on mn so obsessed with controlling when their dc find out this stuff. If he asks fair enough but otherwise just go with it.

deliciousMOISTturkey Fri 23-Dec-16 21:08:23

I have never told my children.

They are 18 and 20. I think perhaps they no but there's no way to know as I am never, ever going to tell them.

If they say anything all I say is 'if you don't believe you don't get presents'.

It works for us fgrin

deliciousMOISTturkey Fri 23-Dec-16 21:09:11

no???? Know ffs.

I have had wine.

Lilaclily Fri 23-Dec-16 21:09:48

It's not for parents to tell

Kids just get the gist from TV, from the school playground etc

TeenAndTween Fri 23-Dec-16 21:10:28

wait until spring

then talk about the easter bunny, tooth fairy, and move seamlessly to father Christmas.

Sirzy Fri 23-Dec-16 21:10:50

Why say anything?

Sounds like he is well on his way to figuring it himself so leave him to it and don't make an issue of it.

pklme Fri 23-Dec-16 21:11:18

In the summer, for a start!

I said something along the lines of, "you know how the tooth fairy works... Well Santa is a bit like that!"

Obviously it was a gentler, longer conversation than that.

Champagneformyrealfriends Fri 23-Dec-16 21:11:23

"If you don't believe, you don't receive"

Playdoughcaterpillar Fri 23-Dec-16 21:11:57

Just don't tell him this side of Christmas! I wouldn't tell at all.

HopelesslydevotedtoGu Fri 23-Dec-16 21:12:55

Engineer a way for him to 'discover' the truth himself

Eg let something slip in conversation, he finds something 'hidden'

That way he feels he was clever in figuring it out

lapsedorienteerer Fri 23-Dec-16 21:13:12

You don't 'tell' your DC, wait for them to mention it to you. That being said we all still have 'stockings' i.e. me, DH and DS(14).....and will continue

Confusednotcom Fri 23-Dec-16 21:13:28

Unless he asks directly why mention it? The polar express is a good film for those beginning to question it I think.

harderandharder2breathe Fri 23-Dec-16 21:14:11

For the love of santa don't tell this weekend!

You said you think he knows, why not just leave it at that? Kids are smart, he can go along with it for his brother and presents while still knowing the truth

Sybys Fri 23-Dec-16 21:14:50

The OP said that this will be his last Xmas believing in Santa, so I don't know why people are worried she's going to tell him before Xmas

AnnieAnoniMouse Fri 23-Dec-16 21:15:39

Don't tell him!

Why on earth would you do that? 11 yo here still genuinely believes, it's lovely.

After Christmas thank him for not letting on that Santa isn't real and keeping the magic for DS2. That way he gets told without feeling like you thought he was young enough to still believe (even if he still did).

Sybys Fri 23-Dec-16 21:29:37

AnnieAnoniMouse - most children have figured it out before the age of 10, and I really think the remaining believers should be told before starting secondary school.

In part, I'd worry that a child who still believed, well beyond the 'normal' age, could be bullied and partially because, as their education progresses, it isn't helpful if a child cannot tell the difference between real and make-believe. Ideally they'd develop their deductive reasoning skills on their own of course, but that's all the more difficult if parents keep up the Santa myth into their child's tween or teen years - at that point I think you're hindering your child's development.

Crumbs1 Fri 23-Dec-16 21:33:10

Mine were always told that it was simply the case of the magic changing. They got as excited filling siblings stockings as opening their own.

Wonderflonium Fri 23-Dec-16 21:33:29

There was a meme on facebook about breaking the news that involves telling the child that while there is no Santa, it is their turn to become Santa. maybe that might serve your purposes?

gamerchick Fri 23-Dec-16 21:36:36

You don't tell them, they find out naturally.

cricketballs Fri 23-Dec-16 21:37:08

Don't tell him; he will figure it out for himself

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