I'm having a bit of a wobble over our Christmas plans and what my ex might (or might not) do.
So I have 2 kids to him, 10&9, we have been divorced for over 7 years. He is remarried, no kids. I am remarried with a toddler. Things have usually been amicable with us, down to the fact that he normally texts me his days to have the kids a few wks in advance for the month ahead. Whilst it's not ideal not having set contact I've very very rarely had to say "no sorry we have plans that day".
This year contact has become less frequent, he only has them 2 over nights a month. Usually collects 7pm Saturday until 6pm Sundays when contact does happen. He is more than welcome to much more contact than that but chooses not to. Over the past 4/5 months he's stopped texting me regarding arrangements and does it through kids, FAR from ideal as messages get confused etc, I have told him this but he continues to not text/call/email me.
So, he had them once this month, no arrangements have been made regarding any part of xmas or new year with me or with the kids. I have just done our big food shop now, plenty of fridge stuff, party nibbles etc to cater for all of us and we have a few family members coming to see kids also. I am now stressing that he is going to expect to see them Christmas Day or Boxing Day without prior communication.
WIBU to say I'm really sorry but I assumed you made other plans due to no contact and now we have family plans until Boxing Day tea time at the earliest?
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WIBU? Ex and kids over Christmas
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ems137 · 23/12/2016 20:03
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