Today was our annual Christmas visit to my mum's house. We only see her a few times a year and we always travel there as she won't come to ours.
Usually it takes 2 hours to get there. However at this time of year it can take 3 hours or so.
I had already called and asked if she would visit here for a change as I'm currently 8 months pregnant and I'm struggling to sit for that length of time. But she wouldn't come here as she was busy, doesn't like coming etc.
So we set off at 7 this morning to try and beat the worst of the traffic. I text my mum when we were an hour away and again when we were 10 minutes away.
We arrived at 10:30 knock on the door and we can hear the dog barking but she doesn't answer. So I called her and she tells me she is walking the dog and delivering cards.
I said I knew she was lying because we could hear the dog.
She span me this story about how she had been walking the dog but a neighbour invited her in so she dropped the dog at home and was now at neighbours house. She claimed she would be ten minutes.
Half an hour later and there was no sign of her. So I called her again, she said she had been held up and would be 10 minutes for sure.
20 minutes later we spot her leaving the house 2 doors down. I was really annoyed because that means that she could see us in the car etc waiting for her. But I kept quiet for the DCs mostly.
So we are in the house and she seemed to think it was all ok because we would just stay at her house all afternoon instead of leaving at lunchtime like originally planned. I told her we were sticking to the original plan as the DCs need lunch and we need to drive back and we have other things to do today.
She then got in a complete huff and opened her Christmas present while we were still in the room. She then complained that she didn't like her present and she didn't want to give us our presents because we weren't staying.
She then went on a rant about how ungrateful we were.
I told her if she carried on we would leave now as we had only come to see her and she was spoiling the day. She told me that she was only upset because my dad was invited to spend Christmas day with us at the ILS house and she hasn't.
I pointed out that they invited my dad because he is very sick and last time she saw the ILS she was hateful towards them so they weren't going to invite her really.
She then said something offensive about ILS so I told her we were leaving and I was never visiting her house again.
She started crying and begging me to change my mind but I was pretty upset and so we left.
She keeps texting me telling me she is sorry but I can't keep her away from her grandchildren. She has also told my uncle and he has called me telling me how upset she is.
I don't want to make the effort to go there again. Admittedly I don't like going there anyway. The DCs aren't allowed to do anything there in case they mess with her stuff and she always finds something to lecture me about.
However she is the DCs grandmother and she does love seeing them.
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DogsKidsandchocolate · 23/12/2016 18:38
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