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To think this is unbelievably tight for a wedding?

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StingyWedding Thu 22-Dec-16 21:24:44

Recently attending a wedding of a friend. Amongst various other issues on the day I just felt it was a very poor and stingy wedding, at the reception they had a "hot chocolate bar" - they were charging for this (and tea, and coffee....)

Photo attached which they have proudly displayed on their Facebook.

Am I wrong to think of you invite people to a wedding you actually host and therefore provide for your guests? Not expecting a free bar but some table wine and soft drinks surely?

iwantavuvezela Thu 22-Dec-16 21:26:10

Is that the couples name on top, it would not be fair to identify them if it is.

StingyWedding Thu 22-Dec-16 21:26:44

No it's not.

Mmmmshop Thu 22-Dec-16 21:27:25

Ugh. We couldn't afford to provide wine for everyone at ours. I was under the impression that our family and friends had come to celebrate our marriage, not to be provided with alcohol.

BikeRunSki Thu 22-Dec-16 21:27:36

That is pretty tight!

RandomDent Thu 22-Dec-16 21:28:25

Was there anything else available?

steff13 Thu 22-Dec-16 21:28:35

At a wedding reception, I'd expect all food and drinks to be provided for free, with the possible exception of alcohol.

Belle89 Thu 22-Dec-16 21:28:38

Maybe they just couldn't afford to cater for everyone and given that places hike prices up for wedding functions I don't blame them.
It was probably a choice of have guests pay for their drinks etc or not invite them at all. I'd be thankful for the invite. If you don't like it you can always not buy drinks and just go home

Sparlklesilverglitter Thu 22-Dec-16 21:28:50

Even without the name if this gets picked up by the daily nail I'm pretty sure they will know how they are.

So you had to pay for drinks at a wedding? Well I haven't been to many with a free bar or unlimited table wine or soft drinks

Dilligaf81 Thu 22-Dec-16 21:28:51

Yep if you cant afford it dont do it. I dont mind a paying bar but as generally id buy a gift the equivalent of what it costs to feed us. Did they provide food etc ?

Gardencentregroupie Thu 22-Dec-16 21:28:53

You got invited to a wedding where they expected you to pay two pounds fifty for a cup of tea? Seriously?!?!

CrazyGreyhoundLady Thu 22-Dec-16 21:29:31

And here is why me and dp are planning to elope. Me him our daughter and the dog. Merry fucking Christmas! Don't go if you're just there for the free booze hmm

Leslieknope45 Thu 22-Dec-16 21:30:27

Eurgh so stingy!

lilyb84 Thu 22-Dec-16 21:30:49

Not to provide soft drinks / tea and coffee does seem a little tight. I think they've 'proudly' displayed that on their FB because it's quite a nice idea but you'd have thought that would be extra to basic drinks provided free...

We had a very minimal wedding with a pub reception / buffet but covered table wine and a first drink each for all guests at the bar as that seemed to be fair. Don't think our non-London guests will ever forgive us for the London drinks prices though... grin

maddy68 Thu 22-Dec-16 21:31:14

I would expect the meal (and drinks that go with that) to be provided but any other bars after that I would expect to pay for

Gardencentregroupie Thu 22-Dec-16 21:31:15

The people who are talking about free booze, have you looked at the picture? It's £2.50 for a cup of tea!!

Upanddownroundandround Thu 22-Dec-16 21:31:53

Yes I think it's tight to charge for tea and coffee. If you can't afford to provide hot chocolate then don't provide it. If I knew the couple were struggling to pay for a wedding I would not expect alcohol. However if you are hosting a wedding reception (baring in mind you can marry without a reception) I expect some sort of soft drink, hot or cold, to be provided.

SecretWitch Thu 22-Dec-16 21:32:39

This a really unkind thread. I'm guessing you were not held at gun point to buy the hot chocolate..

Spam88 Thu 22-Dec-16 21:32:58

I'm all for a cash bar but having a hot chocolate bar and charging for it is a bit cringey...it's like having a one of those sweet cart things and charging people 🙈

TheTantrumCometh Thu 22-Dec-16 21:33:12

I'm on the fence.

You expect to pay for drinks at a wedding. Very few weddings have an open bar. Although these aren't alcoholic, they are still drinks.

MsVestibule Thu 22-Dec-16 21:33:27

Did they provide the food?

MiladyThesaurus Thu 22-Dec-16 21:34:16

At £2.50 for a cup of tea they must be using this to raise money to pay for other bits of the wedding.

Blacksox Thu 22-Dec-16 21:34:26

Blimey - that is mean.

Bluntness100 Thu 22-Dec-16 21:34:38

I'd assume it was because they couldn't afford to pay for everyone's refreshments rather than they were tight but still wanted to have a wedding where their friends and family could help them celebrate and be with them.

I certainly wouldn't take issue with this unless I knew the couple could more than easily afford it.

WorraLiberty Thu 22-Dec-16 21:34:46

Yes it's a bit tight

But this thread is really horrible.

Imagine finding out one of the guests at your wedding is slating you on a public internet forum?

Bad form OP

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