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AIBU to be annoyed? What would you do?

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craftwhore Tue 20-Dec-16 13:49:26

DC have been not themselves at all the last couple of days, temperatures on and off, lots of unhappiness. They're in nursery today and I just rang up to see how they are before their naps, in case I need to book a doctor's appointment and juggle with work. Got through to one of the usual ladies in the office - for context, I see her almost every day we're there, always say hello, thank her politely for anything she does, etc. I.e. I don't see there's been anything off with my behaviour.

"Hi OfficeLady, it's craftwhore, DCs' mum. Just wondering how they're doing today, can I speak to someone please?"

OfficeLady put me through to their room, I guess I wasn't supposed to hear the part just before I was put through where someone said in a really mocking tone "hi OfficeLady, it's DCs' mum". I don't know for sure if that was OfficeLady or if there was someone else there too, as I wouldn't recognise her mocking voice...!

At first I thought it was some kind of echo but it was way too late for that and those weren't the exact words I said. I feel kind of humiliated and really pissed off - am I not supposed to ring and ask about my children? (Nursery are always encouraging of ringing for any reason) Am i not supposed to be polite and use people's names? What on earth does whoever it was think there is to take the piss out of? What would you do?

They've always been friendly and I've always felt welcome up to now, but now it feels somewhat different! And I don't want that sort of attitude around my DC tbqf. (Although she's not a key worker.) I don't really want to do nothing and let it slide. It's not a big deal, it's a first world problem etc. but I fail to see how it could be construed in a positive way! AIBU, WWYD??

Sirzy Tue 20-Dec-16 13:53:02

I am missing what happened to be honest.
But really if they have temps and may be ill enough for docotors why are they in nursery anyway?

CondensedMilkSarnies Tue 20-Dec-16 13:53:49

I'd be a bit passive aggressive and when I next saw her , ask if she heard the 'echo' too .

Wolfiefan Tue 20-Dec-16 13:53:55

Perhaps they are fed up that you sent sick kids in? hmm

Christmasheartache Tue 20-Dec-16 13:56:33

Probably (rightly so) pissed off at you for sending in poorly kids who could make them all ill just before Christmas hmm

Costacoffeeplease Tue 20-Dec-16 13:58:35



HeddaGabbler Tue 20-Dec-16 14:00:27

It's out of order and unprofessional, regardless of whether you sent unwell children in or not. As for what you should do about it though I'm not sure. You kind of missed the moment by not asking her what she was doing when she said it.

HerChristmasFattyness Tue 20-Dec-16 14:00:47

I'm surprised they let you keep them there at all. We'd have told you to take them home. If you're concerned enough to be phoning then they shouldn't be in nursery.
But yes, they're probably annoyed you're risking infecting the other children and the staff just before Christmas

CondensedMilkSarnies Tue 20-Dec-16 14:09:23

The children aren't themselves , on / off temperature , they're not ill ill . I bet loads of parents have sent kids into nursery or school on a 'see how they are' basis.

purpleflower23 Tue 20-Dec-16 14:18:05

I don't really understand what happened? Did she say something bitchy about you?

PberryT Tue 20-Dec-16 14:20:05

If they are well enough to go to nursery there's no fucking way they need a doctors appointment. Stop wasting your doctors time.

PurpleMinionMummy Tue 20-Dec-16 14:32:30

I'd make a PA comment about how they should check they've put people on hold properly before transferring calls, as you can hear what they say.....

AmberEars Tue 20-Dec-16 14:32:44

Meh. I couldn't get too worked up about this tbh. It could have been a lot worse!

Crunchymum Tue 20-Dec-16 14:32:49

Another one wondering why they are well enough for nursery (despite temperatures) but you may need a GP appointment?

Did you give them a dose of Calpol before nursery too? <head tilt>

Wolfiefan Tue 20-Dec-16 14:36:52

Yes. They keep having temperatures. (You give calpol and its better for a bit right?!) They need a doctor but well enough for nursery? Sorry but that doesn't make sense.
Ill kids should be at home. May need to see a doctor.
Well kids can go to nursery and shouldn't need a doctor.

RubyRoseViolet Tue 20-Dec-16 14:39:40

She mimicked op while putting through the call to the nursery room. Very rude I agree. A similar thing happened to me at our dentists a few years ago. I'm not sure what to suggest but yanbu to feel offended.

Bluntness100 Tue 20-Dec-16 14:42:12

Clearly office lady has a bad case of being a little bitch. It's a nasty disorder and sufferers often don't know it's one that others heartily dislike. 😂

If uoure kids are so unwell that they are running a temp and you're concerned they may have to go to a doctor, then they shouldn't be in nursery. So two wrongs in this sad Xmas tale of woe...

OwlinaTree Tue 20-Dec-16 14:46:11

Op has gone to work. That's why the children are in nursery I should think. Sounds like they are under the weather rather than ill, op was checking they hadn't got worse over the morning.

I've no idea why they would be mocking you like that from what you say. Very odd.

OwlinaTree Tue 20-Dec-16 14:48:16

The only thing I can think is if you ring up an awful lot.

bumsexatthebingo Tue 20-Dec-16 14:49:07

Well I agree that if they are ill with temps and may need to see a doctor they shouldn't be in nursery but in response to your actual question of course YANBU to be annoyed that a member of staff was mimicking you. If they were annoyed at you sending the children n too ill to be there they should have called you to pick them up. It doesn't justify childish and unprofessional behaviour.
I would mention it to the manager tbh but in a nice giving them a heads up way so it doesn't happen with any other parents.

TwoGunslingers Tue 20-Dec-16 14:50:55

I'm guessing you probably call a lot...

It is rude of the receptionist lady, but i wouldn't cry about it to be honest.

Hope the kids feel better soon

Daisyfrumps Tue 20-Dec-16 14:51:57


At pickup:

Me: Hi OfficeLady, I heard someone mimicking me when I was put on hold earlier - is everything alright?

Daisyfrumps Tue 20-Dec-16 14:54:16

Or if you don't want to confront her, I'd try to forget about it. She might have been trying to make the person in the other room laugh and it might not have been mocking.

Anyway, what other people think of you is none of your business.

PberryT Tue 20-Dec-16 14:58:00

Kids don't need a doctors appointment for a temp. Especially a temp that means they have gone to nursery.

Jiggl Tue 20-Dec-16 15:00:10

hmm... I work on reception and it would result in a disciplinary if I was caught taking the piss out of a client during a call transfer. It's a basic competence of the job tbh.

Tell the manager. You heard someone mimicking you before the call got patched through to the room and the next parent might hear far worse.

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