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WIBU to leave 10 year old at home with his nan while the rest of us go to Florida?

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user1482217471 Tue 20-Dec-16 07:16:34

10 year old son has caught a nasty bug and he is pretty much in bed 24/7 and has been for a couple of days. He has been having lots of fluids but has the full d & v. He is ok though but no way is he ok to come away. We rarely go on big holidays but do go to somewhere in Europe every year. We are going to Orlando for Christmas I have 5 children and I think it will be really magical. He is very close to my nan and they spend a lot of time together. The last thing I want to do is leave him but I do have 4 other children that cannot wait for this holiday and I don't really know what to do. WIBU to go away with other children and leave him here with his nan?

Friendinneed2016 Tue 20-Dec-16 07:18:12

Yikes, when do you leave?

chitofftheshovel Tue 20-Dec-16 07:18:13

Have you broached the subject with him?

ImYourMama Tue 20-Dec-16 07:19:45

When are you due to leave? Do you have travel insurance that will cover his costs?

DorothyL Tue 20-Dec-16 07:20:02

Not okay, you'll have to find another solution! When do you leave?

Sirzy Tue 20-Dec-16 07:20:32

I couldn't do that. I would be on the phone to the insurance getting it cancelled and plan to do it next year instead.

Awful timing but I couldn't leave one child out.

user1482217471 Tue 20-Dec-16 07:21:05

Tonight/early tomorrow morning.

No not properly just said about the holiday and he's just replied you'll obviously have to leave me here but I think that's in an annoyed way but can't really tell as he is unwell.

PotteringAlong Tue 20-Dec-16 07:21:11

Yes, yes you would.

AHedgehogCanNeverBeBuggered Tue 20-Dec-16 07:21:18

What? Yes, YWBVU!! What kind of parent leaves a ten-year-old at Christmas and swans off on holiday with the rest of the family?

The only way this would be remotely possible is if you buy another flight (unaccompanied minor) and get your nan to put him on the flight on Fri/Sat.

Bobochic Tue 20-Dec-16 07:21:24

Of course you have to leave an ill child behind.

Gallavich Tue 20-Dec-16 07:21:28

Fuck that's awful
I'm not sure what you should do for the best but leaving him is hideous

intheknickersoftime Tue 20-Dec-16 07:21:43

Erm yes yabu. You can't leave him behind. Surely you have insurance? And my three DC have never set foot outside the UK so they do have a big holiday every year from the sounds of things. My oldest is 14.

VeryBitchyRestingFace Tue 20-Dec-16 07:21:44

Not U in the circumstances, although I don't know that I could do it. sad

Poor wee lad, how heartbreaking for him. He'll be away from you on 25th?

You'll need to bring him back a humungous present.

Champagneformyrealfriends Tue 20-Dec-16 07:21:51

Poor kid-I'd say yabu but I can see why you're conflicted.

DoItTooJulia Tue 20-Dec-16 07:22:26

Poor thing. Are you sure he'll be too poorly?

I don't think I could leave him behind, but I understand where you're coming from. What a difficult situation. I hope he feels better soon fsmile

DorothyL Tue 20-Dec-16 07:22:27

Are any other adults travelling?

MrsSnow Tue 20-Dec-16 07:22:30

Travel insurance. You can't leave him out especially if it is something everyone has been looking forward to.

What would you do if the others got ill along the way?

DoItTooJulia Tue 20-Dec-16 07:22:50

Emoji fail. Was supposed to be flowers

user1482217471 Tue 20-Dec-16 07:22:58

Ok it's a bit harsh to be horrible about it!! I'm really trying to find a solution.

Fishlegs Tue 20-Dec-16 07:23:13

No way would I do that to my 10 year old. Apart from being upset about missing the holiday, he'd want his mum when he was ill.

SuperRainbows Tue 20-Dec-16 07:23:32

Don't think I could leave him. Could Nan take other children?

Fishlegs Tue 20-Dec-16 07:24:20

Also surely it's going to pass through all the other kids over the next week or two.......

Whatthefreakinwhatnow Tue 20-Dec-16 07:24:35

Can't you stay with him and fly out later when he's recovered? D&V tends to be short lived so should be fine in a day or two.

I'd rather fork out for new flights than leave him behind, that would be awful sad

user1482217471 Tue 20-Dec-16 07:24:49

If another adult was flying I'd get them to take the other children and I'd stay at home but it's just me.

DorothyL Tue 20-Dec-16 07:24:56

Was it just going to be you and the children going, or another adult as well?

I would say could another adult take the children today, and you and ds follow in a few days when he's better.

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