DD is almost 8 months old. She is a crap sleeper and napper and bf to sleep (still wakes every 2-3 hours from 7-7) so it's me who does all the settling for night and naps.
DH works long hours and doesn't see much of DD during the week. On occasion when we've had a particularly bad night he will take her for an hour in the morning before he goes to work so I can get an extra hours sleep. That an my mum taking her for a couple of hours once a weekish is the only break I get. After several arguments over the course of my mat leave we have now compromised on a division of house work we both feel is fair. The vast majority of childcare, at all times, is my responsibility.
DH is off on Tuesday and Wednesday's and has planned a night out staying over at a holiday let locally having some drinks and a catch up with his friends. He doesn't do this often, maybe 4-5 times since DD was born and one of those times was his birthday. I'm fine with this.
However since this was booked DD and I have both come down with stinking colds and have barely slept the last two nights. He hasn't done anything additional to help but has been at work. I was looking forward to him helping out Tuesday before he went away, giving me a chance to rest and maybe have a lie in etc...
He has now turned around as said he wants to go at midday Tuesday instead of 5pm. I feel upset and angry that he hasn't thought of me and that I would need a break. I haven't and wouldn't expect him to cancel the evening and night away but would expect him to help in the day before he went.
We're just about to exchange on a very difficult house purchase. I've spent a long week chasing solicitor and vendor and pulling my hair out over the infuriating chain we're in. We've both been packing in spare time and feeling very stressed. I've not had any solid sleep in 8 months and I honestly don't know if I'm being a bitch in feeling upset about this. He has said all he wants is one afternoon & night away and that I'm massively over reacting. He has time off over Xmas and Jan (for house move) but it's now that we're ill!!
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Bearberry · 19/12/2016 15:08
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