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Aibu to be angry/upset (xmas gift problem)

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ShineySquirell Sun 18-Dec-16 14:09:52

Excuse if I rant a bit but this has really riled me.
It's probably gonna sound really trivial so some and also ungrateful which I am definitely not but I feel like they've really over stepped the mark here.

Basically back at the beginning of November I bought my daughter who's 3 a new doll one of the baby born ones that wee,poo cry ect etc this is her main present from myself and her dad even tho he had no bloody input into it and even tho I showed him what I bought and wrapped it right in front of him he conveniently forgot I had bought it.

So cue a just over a week ago my dh came home from work (he works with his dad) saying that today his dad has decided to get my dd a new dolls pram for xmas which I thought was great as she could use it with her new doll,but then dh added that fil is also on about getting her a doll to go with it aswell, I was not happy as I felt like why does she need 2 new dolls and also I don't want the doll fil gets to outshine the one I bought.

I thought I had made it clear to dh but today we met with fil and he has gone ahead and bought her a doll and then he went on to say oh it's a good one it wees and poos and everything !
I'm ashamed to say I lost it at dh i can't believe after what I said fil has still gone and bought it. Aibu to be upset and angry about this?

TeaBelle Sun 18-Dec-16 14:11:38

Yes, you have totally overreacted. Your dd can just have sibling/twin dolls. Chill out

Bluntness100 Sun 18-Dec-16 14:12:35

Well eh yes, kind of. Is it the same doll? If so he will have to return it. If not then she can have two. I don't see it as something to lose your shit over. Sorry. Are you feeling stress about other things maybe and this has caused you to tip over the edge? 💐

VeryBitchyRestingFace Sun 18-Dec-16 14:12:43

You've included your daughter's name in OP. Might want to get MNHQ to amend.

pinkblink Sun 18-Dec-16 14:12:59

I understand you being frustrated and like he stepped on your toes and I'd be angry too, but try and be pleased he wants to buy her nice things and makes an effort, maybe return yours and buy something else?

elQuintoConyo Sun 18-Dec-16 14:13:19

Your child's name is in your opening post. Report to MNHQ and they'll alter it.

Ring your Fil and tell him to return the doll. Or return yours.

People are dopey and absent-minded. Call and explain, then work out what you're going to do about it. Or get your DP to call and handle it.

ferriswheel Sun 18-Dec-16 14:13:21

Yeah. Sorry. What Belle said.

Supermagicsmile Sun 18-Dec-16 14:13:35

YABU. DD can have twins! smile If you're worried, put his up and give it to her for her birthday.

PotteringAlong Sun 18-Dec-16 14:15:42

Yup. Complete overreaction, sorry.

VeryBitchyRestingFace Sun 18-Dec-16 14:16:18

I was not happy as I felt like why does she need 2 new dolls

Why would you not need 2 dolls?? grin

Your daughter is a wee tot. Surely the more, the merrier at that age.

DecaffCoffeeAndRollupsPlease Sun 18-Dec-16 14:22:28

I'd be annoyed if my husband ignored and forgot conversations we'd had about main Christmas present then went and encouraged his father to get a duplicate.

BeachyKeen Sun 18-Dec-16 14:24:32

This isn't what Christmas should be about.

Calm yourself down, and ask yourself, if it really really mattered this much, why did you leave it to your DH to talk to FIL instead of picking up the phone yourself?

It sounds like you are less worried about the child's joy than your ability to shine. I hope I've got it wrong.

Soubriquet Sun 18-Dec-16 14:24:38

I understand why you're annoyed

It's as if your Dh doesn't listen and pay attention to what you have said

DailyFail1 Sun 18-Dec-16 14:26:23

Your dh is a dick. What I'd do is have dd open the doll I bought her on xmas day, then surprise her on boxing day with gp's doll.

ALittleMop Sun 18-Dec-16 14:27:23

I understand I think, but YABU
Your daughter is very lucky.
Be gracious and let your FIL also have pleasure in giving.
A little girl can enjoy having two dolls. It does not diminish your gift.

Jellybean83 Sun 18-Dec-16 14:27:48

If it's the same doll just tell your FIL that you have already bought her that one so he has to return it, even suggest new dolls clothes or whatever other accessories go with dolls in place of the doll. It's simply rectified.

NotStoppedAllDay Sun 18-Dec-16 14:28:31

Wow!!! What a wonderful and thoughtful FIL you have!!

Stop being so bratty and grow the hell up!

Sugarpiehoneyeye Sun 18-Dec-16 14:29:06

I'm sure your little girl will love both dollies.
Don't worry OP, children believe that Santa brings them anyway !

DrinkReprehensibly Sun 18-Dec-16 14:29:36

Sounds like a misunderstanding, perhaps through incompetence but hopefully something to laugh about in years to come.

Your FIL might be a bit put out if he duplicates a present too. Talk about it ASAP so he also has the opportunity to get something different if he wants to.

It's probably not a conspiracy!

CondensedMilkSarnies Sun 18-Dec-16 14:30:16

How is she going to play schools with only one doll ? smile

SandyFeet177 Sun 18-Dec-16 14:31:42

I'm sure it comes from a good place. A bit like buying a train for a track you've bought. I can see a lot of grandparents thinking it's a lovely idea to do the same, not just yours.

Kirriemuir Sun 18-Dec-16 14:32:39

Does it really matter. It's a doll.

AddictedtoSnickers Sun 18-Dec-16 14:32:44

Take your doll back and spend the money on something else instead?

HappySeven Sun 18-Dec-16 14:35:46

Your daughter will love having 2 dolls and you'll be happy when she has a friend to play and they're not fighting over one doll. My DD loves having lots of dolls.

HaveNoSocks Sun 18-Dec-16 14:36:35

I think you over reacted but I can understand why you're annoyed. I would just tell FiL, the pram is a lovely idea but she'd already going to be getting a doll and the pram by itself is generous enough!

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