3 years ago today we lost our dad to cancer. He was a wonderful man that many people loved and it was obviously a huge loss for all of us. I had a really close relationship with my dad and it hit me hard and I still find it very painful. Everyone knows this.
We've never had a particularly close family but I would say we get on ok. We all live within a mile radius and I thought we enjoyed each other's company. My mum is obviously on her own now and so my brother has invited her over this evening so she's not by herself which I think is really nice. The thing is, I'm also on my own and grieving, but they haven't invited me. I can't figure out why and I've got mixed emotions of upset, anger, offence and sadness. It's made me feel like shit to be quite honest. It's been planned all week, I just thought perhaps it had taken them a while to mention it, but no, my mum has just said she's off there this evening without even asking what I'm doing.
I'm trying really hard not to make this about me and therefore don't really want to mention it, but I'm gutted. The angry side of me wants to f*ck them all off next week and not even spend Christmas Eve with them which is all we've got planned over Christmas. Now i know that's being unreasonable and will try and get over myself on that one! But I was already a bit upset that they had left me and my mum to it on Christmas Day (it's just the two of us as my son is at his dads). But I just feel this really is a bit too far especially at this time of year. AIBU? Need a bit of help processing my thoughts on this one. Thank you x
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So hurt...why would they do that. AIBU?
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