Back story. Fell out with sister who I was very close to in summer (have spoken about this before) she has stopped contact. I did everything to try and resolve it but she was too angry to want to resolve. I used to do a lot for my sister. I helped her out several times financially and physically. It hurt so much that she wanted to hang onto the one time I couldn't be there for her instead of realising all the times I was there at the drop of the hat.
For context I work full time, attend college and have 5dc so it was simply a situation that slipped my mind and nothing sinister in my part.
Because of this I have resolved to treat as treated.
I also have a brother who lives with my parents 35 years old. My brother is fine but makes no effort with us at all. He only visits our house if he comes with parents and it is the only way he will be fed. I was recently very ill and in hospital and didn't get so much as a text from him. I have had one text from him in 2 years and that was because he needed something. I get on with him fine when I visit my parents but that is the only time I have contact. It's not something I can approach him with as he is very sensitive and like Sister will result in a huge argument.
It is very much expected from parents that he be considered in everything. For example if my parents come to mine and we offer them a meal, they will say no because Db will be wanting dinner. Christmas they will not visit as Db does not want to and they will not leave him alone for an hour.
So here's the dillema. I "feel" like I want to say enough is enough. I have already decided not to go visiting and I am considering not even bothering getting my brother a present (this will not go down well) when he cannot even send a card or a text wishing us a merry Christmas. However my nature is telling me that I am being a huge bitch as he hasn't actually "done" anything nasty he just doesn't seem to care.
I am fully prepared to be told I am being unreasonable in light of my argument with my sister and that I am taking it out on brother. I promise I am not doing that. I am just evaluating the relationships in my life and self preserving myself.
WWYD?
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AIBU?
Moral dilemma - WWYD and AIBU to just say sod its.
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rabbit12345 · 17/12/2016 10:06
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