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User1234567891011 Fri 16-Dec-16 09:01:35

I'm 100% okay with being told IABU.

I work in a fast paced area, very loud and very busy - its hard to hear people and as a result asking someone to repeat themselves is the usual. I often have to ask ''What?'' because I didn't catch something.

My manager has a habit of saying ''Pardon!'' every time I say ''What?'' as a way of correcting me - Every. Single. Time. Its like having my mother in work.

AIBU to think she shouldn't be doing this every time? I could understand if I wasn't saying please or thank you, but I do. Just for full disclosure we're from different counties (I'm from the north), she also tends to correct the way I say things because of my accent.

Iwasjustabouttosaythat Fri 16-Dec-16 09:06:31

She sounds like an idiot. Nothing wrong with saying "what" or "pardon" but people who go out of their way to make sure everyone knows they say "pardon" are painfully pretentious.

Bailey101 Fri 16-Dec-16 09:08:39

Depending on your work environment, manners might be seen as important and 'what' isn't very polite. Correcting your accent isn't on though.

Seeline Fri 16-Dec-16 09:10:18

She is rude to keep correcting you, and especially correcting your accent.
I think 'what' is rude though, and would prefer to hear pardon or sorry.

Oysterbabe Fri 16-Dec-16 09:11:05

What is the correct thing to say. You should start correcting her Pardon.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks Fri 16-Dec-16 09:12:06

Maybe she thinks "What?" is rude and 'snippy'. Many people consider rude and 'snippy' to be a form of bullying.

DidILeaveTheGasOn Fri 16-Dec-16 09:12:37

This article in The Lady suggests the use of pardon is aspirational, an affectation in order to try to make oneself sound upper class:-

StarlingMurderation Fri 16-Dec-16 09:12:55

'What?' is U. 'Pardon?' is non-U. Anyone who cares enough to be correcting people should really get it right.

PhilODox Fri 16-Dec-16 09:13:46

People that use "pardon" hate "what", using "sorry?" is a good compromise.

Pluto30 Fri 16-Dec-16 09:14:12

Well, I was always taught that "what?" is rude, so, based on that, I'd say YABU.

amusedbush Fri 16-Dec-16 09:14:28

I've seen threads about what/pardon before and apparently "what" is correct.

I'm a rebel and say "sorry?" though wink

DidILeaveTheGasOn Fri 16-Dec-16 09:14:32

Highlighting your northen-ness by correcting your pronunciation is harassment. I know that sounds a bit hysterical, but it is. You don't have to put up with this. If it's such a fast paced environment, why does this person have time to single you out?

User1234567891011 Fri 16-Dec-16 09:15:27

I work in fast food - we're all common as muck, no one gets offended by saying ''What?'' grin

Lots of people say ''What?'' just as as reflex and she corrects them too but she does correct me more, and corrects my accent too (they all have the same accent).

We're both in our twenties and she's only a few years older than me, I think sometimes she's trying to assert herself as older IYSWIM?

EdmundCleverClogs Fri 16-Dec-16 09:16:21

Pardon is rude, what is fine where I'm from. Better still a questioning 'sorry?', but never 'pardon', I'd be wondering who the hell did you think you were to 'pardon' at me wink.

Rainydayspending Fri 16-Dec-16 09:16:58

I'd tell them it's rude to mock an accent for starters. Buy them a book on modern etiquette for Christmas. They are falling short.

EverythingEverywhere1234 Fri 16-Dec-16 09:17:09

'Pardon' is so try hard. 'What' is kind of rude. To my ears, 'Sorry?' or 'Excuse me?' sounds better, but what do I know, I say 'Say again?'

Bobochic Fri 16-Dec-16 09:17:21

I say sorry rather than what but I would never, ever say pardon.

Lespritdelsietanner Fri 16-Dec-16 09:19:38

YANBU. She sounds like a twit. Print the article from The Lady and give it to her.

mumoftwoboysandhusband Fri 16-Dec-16 09:20:43

One of my work colleagues was told to not speak in such a Mancunian accent on the phone a few years ago. She is Mancunian and we are based in Manchester!! I wonder if she would've been asked not to speak with her accent if she was from, say Jamaica or France or Ireland? confused

TheProblemOfSusan Fri 16-Dec-16 09:21:03

Hoiks bosom "Pardon?" is vrai common. Vrai, vrai, common. "What?", "Excuse me?" or "Sorry, didn't catch that" are all acceptable.

But if your manager is north western she's possibly been taught that pardon is the posh thing to say. When in reality actual posh people just bark "EH?" or "WHAT?" at each other.

(posh people speak in capitals, donchaknow.)

RortyCrankle Fri 16-Dec-16 09:21:09

Every time she says Pardon, say 'why what have you done'. Pardon is horrible but I'm not keen on What? either and usually say Sorry?

Wonderflonium Fri 16-Dec-16 09:21:29

Compromise: "SAY AGAIN!?"

mysistersimone Fri 16-Dec-16 09:21:46

I was taught 'what' was rude and to say pardon. I would be thinking of different things to say to wind her up, "say again?" "Repeat please?" "Again?" Just never pardon wink she is acting superior

Pluto30 Fri 16-Dec-16 09:22:13

According to that U and non-U crap, my entire vocab is non-U.

But here in 'Straya we get real classy and call 'lavatory paper' "toot roll" or "shit tickets", so.

User1234567891011 Fri 16-Dec-16 09:24:56

See, I was raised saying ''What?'' when I didn't hear something so its what automatically comes out of my mouth without a thought.

Excuse me is if you want someone to move for you.

Pardon is for if you burp.

I do tend to wind her up a bit about it now because it annoys me so much blush If she says ''Pardon'' to correct me in passing I pretend like I didn't hear and say ''What?''' back if I'm getting fed up and she's done it a few times too many on shift.

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